7 Vital Boundaries You Must Have In Godly Relationships

In this post, I will share with you the 7 crucial boundaries you must have in godly relationships if you are thinking of godly dating or are planning for marriage.

It’s just a matter of fact that if you are a Christian in a godly relationship, there are certain boundaries you must adhere to so that you don’t end up doing funny things.

Without wasting your valuable time, let’s look at the 7 crucial boundaries you must have in godly relationships that will help you not stumble into sin.

7 Crucial Boundaries In Godly Relationships.

Below are the 7 important boundaries you need to have if you are dating in a godly relationship so that you don’t end up in unnecessary problems.

1. No Sex Before Marriage.

Not having sex before marriage is the first non-negotiable boundary you must have as a godly couple while dating or courting each other. Sexual purity must be your goal at this stage of your relationship

1 Corinthians 6:18 tells us that as Christians, we must flee sexual immorality which has now become commonplace sadly even among professing Christian couples which out not to be so.

If you are Christian singles dating each other as a couple, have firm boundaries in this area so that you won’t see each other’s nakedness before the marriage altar.

As a Christian woman, you must make it clear to the man you are in a relationship with that there will be no physical intimacy before marriage. It’s so sad many young Christian women not doing this.

As God’s daughter, you must not play a harlot with your body which is God’s temple. Don’t spread your legs wide open to every Jim and Jack you see out here promising you love by discovering your nakedness.

Conversely, as a man, you must not be in a hurry to release and dump your seed into every beautiful and attractive sister you see in the Lord. Have some self-control, please, and be responsible with your sexuality.

2. No Abuse.

The second non-negotiable boundary you need to have when it comes to being in a godly relationship is there must be no abuse of any kind.

As a Christian especially as a single Christian woman looking for a godly man to date and later marry in holy matrimony, abuse is something you must not take lightly.

You need to understand that a healthy godly relationship has no traces of abuse of any kind because God’s love doesn’t hurt nor it is abusive.

Never tolerate abuse from your partner in a relationship in the name of love as that will show you have chronic low self-esteem levels. It’s why loving yourself is crucial before you even think of being in a romantic relationship.

So many times, a vast number of Christian women end up with abusive partners thinking they can change them or because they love them and feel too guilty to leave them.

But remember, it’s not your job to change a person as only God can do that. So, if you spot early signs of abuse in your Christian relationship, it’s time to leave especially if the abusive partner doesn’t show signs of changing.

3. Don’t Move In Together Yet.

Not moving together yet while still single and unmarried is another boundary you need to maintain if you are in a godly relationship dating for marriage.

I know that cohabitation has now become common where you now see unmarried people moving in together and popping children all over the place like popcorn in a popping machine.

As a Christian however, you must remember that you don’t live according to worldly values and principles concerning Christian relationships. That is why you must not practice cohabitation.

Cohabitation is for worldly people who don’t understand what godly relationships are all about. It’s so sad to see many professing Christian couples cohabiting and having children out of wedlock.

But that’s what happens when you bring two immature hormone-driven people who are active sexually. You must understand that even as a Christian, you are still a biological human with feelings.

What do you think will happen if you bring together two people of the opposite sex to live under one roof? You are just asking for trouble. This is why you must not live together while unmarred and just be patient, please.

4. Be Equally Yoked.

The Bible teaches that believers should not be yoked together with unbelievers (2 Corinthians 6:14). Finding someone who shares your faith values must be your top priority as you date for marriage.

This implies that as a Christian, you must date within your tribe if you want to avoid unnecessary heartbreaks in the future. Don’t date an unbeliever no matter how handsome or beautiful they may look, please.

It’s so surprising that many Christians don’t adhere to this rule and then cry foul as to why they ended up marrying an abusive partner making their lives a living hell in marriage.

Meanwhile, these people ignored all the red flags the Lord was trying to point to them via other concerned godly friends, counselors, and above all their own conscience.

If you want to have a happy and healthy godly marriage, don’t unequally yoke yourself with an unbeliever who doesn’t share your faith out of desperation and fear of being alone which is ridiculous if you ask me.

Listen to God’s voice in this crucial area as you seek a life partner and let Him guide you on whom to marry. If you do so, you will be glad you listened to His voice as you enjoy your happy Christian marriage in the future.

Related: 5 Major Benefits Of Equally Yoked Relationships.

5. Guard Your Heart. 

Your heart is a precious and delicate commodity where all life issues come from which is why you must guard it with all diligence as Proverbs 4:23 tells us to do. 

You must not give away your heart too easily out of desperation of wanting to be loved, especially to the wrong people who don’t deserve it. Otherwise, they will just end up breaking it without remorse. 

Protect yourself from emotional hurt by allowing trust and intimacy to develop gradually and not being in a hurry to give your heart to anyone without doing a background check on their character.

Always remember that not every person is worth giving your kind and loyal heart to. Only give your heart to a person who’s willing to do the same for you especially if you are a young single Christian lady or gentleman.

Pay attention to how your date or partner treats you. This helps you avoid emotionally investing too much in someone who isn’t a good fit or worth your time. 

Guarding your heart allows you to approach dating with wisdom and discernment. It also helps you not give your heart to the wrong person who will end up shattering it with their betrayal.

6. Zero Tolerance For Toxic Behavior.

Not tolerating any form of toxic behavior from your partner while dating in your Christian relationship is another vital boundary you must not allow anyone to violate.

This is especially true when it comes to the partner you are in a relationship with who claims to love you. Don’t tolerate abusive and toxic behaviors from your partner in the name of love that are detrimental to your well-being.

You need to understand that loving someone doesn’t mean you must tolerate their toxic behaviors such as verbal or physical abuse, control, etc. that are detrimental to your mental health.

Being in a toxic relationship that you know is detrimental to you emotionally in the name of love just proves you don’t truly love yourself at all. It’s why self-love must come first before you even think of dating.

Loving yourself first is what will empower you to not tolerate any toxic behaviors from your partner who professes to be Christian but fails to show it in their actions. You can’t say you love a person, yet be toxic to them at the same time.

If you truly love yourself, there is no way you will allow yourself to be degraded in a toxic relationship by the way your toxic partner treats you as you will know your self-worth and value.

7. Know Your Worth. 

Lastly, knowing your worth is what will help you establish form boundaries in your relationship that will protect your well-being and keep you from abusive situations many are in.

The Bible tells us we are fearfully and wonderfully made by God (Psalm 139:14). This means your worth doesn’t depend on someone else’s validation or approval. 

Dating with a strong sense of self-worth empowers you to avoid bad relationships that are unhealthy, toxic, disrespectful, unbalanced, and devalue you. 

Don’t settle for someone who doesn’t cherish you for the unique person you are and treats you like a doormat as you are not one but a peculiar treasure in God’s sight who deserves love and respect.

Otherwise, if you don’t know your self-worth, you will settle for anything out there even if you know it’s less than you deserve. I am sure you have seen people do that in your life and watched in horror how that has unfolded.

Remember, your self-worth is one of the greatest weapons and deterrence you have in your arsenal that will keep narcissists at bay and prevent you from being with them regardless of how charming they may be.


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These are all the 7 important boundaries you must have in godly relationships if you are dating or courting I had to share with you and I hope you have learned something new from them.

As a single Christian, always remember that healthy boundaries in relationships are crucial for your wellbeing which is why you need to adhere to them to avoid unnecessary heartbreaks.

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