How To Build A Godly Relationship In 7 Easy-To-Do Steps?

If you want to know how to build a godly relationship before marriage, then this post is for you that will help you do just that.

There are many things you need to do as a Christian who’s seeking to build a godly relationship that you hope to later turn into a godly marriage.

You need to understand that a godly relationship is different from a worldly relationship that just promotes sexual immorality and it has unique godly principles different from the world that you must follow.

If you want to have a healthy relationship that is full of joy, and happiness and brings glory to God, your relationship must abide by certain godly principles found in the bible.

With that said, let’s look at how to build a godly relationship before marriage as a Christian couple in 7 easy to do steps that are doable for anyone.

7 Ways Of Building A Godly Relationship.

Below are the 7 ways that will help you build a God-centered relationship and marriage that’s centered on our Lord Jesus Christ.

Remain Chaste.
Let Christ Be The Centre Of Your Relationship.
Develop Deep Christ Like Love For Each Other.
Don’t Be Unequally Yoked.
Learn To Forgive Each Other.
Pray For Each Other.
Seek God’s Will.

1. Remain Chaste.

The first thing you need to do as a person who desires a Christ-centered relationship that glorifies God, you need to remain chaste and pure.

Implying that you need to flee and refrain from all forms of sexual immorality as we are commanded in 1 Corinthians 6:18 in the new testament. Don’t follow worldly examples that only encourage people to sleep around like animals.

You need to understand that as a Christian, sex before marriage or fornication is forbidden as we see in the above bible verse. Sadly, many people who claim to be Christian don’t follow this principle of remaining sexually pure.

Sexual purity is vital in a godly relationship if you are to remain sexually pure and undefiled. Indulging in physical intimacy before marriage will just bring you trouble and lead to the unwanted pregnancies we are witnessing today.

As a Christian man or Christian woman, you need to discipline your body and control your sexual desires rather than acting like an animal that can mate anytime and anywhere. Sex is reserved for married couples only in marriage, please.

2. Let Christ Be The Centre Of Your Relationship.

The second thing you need to do if you want to build a godly relationship as a Christian couple is you need to ensure that Jesus Christ is the center of your relationship.

This means that Jesus Christ must be first in your relationship. When you do that, building a godly relationship that you want to later turn into a godly marriage will be much easier.

If Christ Jesus is at the center of your relationship, it will also be easier to follow the godly principles that characterize all godly relationships and godly marriages.

For instance, you will find it easy to selflessly love each other sacrificially as commanded in John 13:34 because the love of Christ Jesus is reigning supreme in both of you as a Christian couple.

If Jesus Christ isn’t the center of your relationship, it will be impossible for you to selflessly love each other with the selfless agape love 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 talks about. You will also give up on each other easily if Christ isn’t in your relationship.

3. Develop Deep Christ Like Love For Each Other.

The third thing that will help you build a godly relationship that will stand the test of time and result in a godly marriage is you need to develop deep selfless love for each other that will make you desire to selflessly serve each other.

You need to remember that the love we are talking about here isn’t the selfish human love found in worldly relationships that only seeks to get from a person rather than to give.

Instead, it’s the selfless agape love the apostle Paul tells us in 1 Corinthians 13:4 that is patient, long-suffering and that doesn’t seek its own selfish interests. It’s love based on actions and not feelings that change all the time.

Without this selfless Christ-like love in your life, you will find it impossible to love your partner selflessly the way God expects you to. Agape love is what will make your relationship and marriage stand the test of time.

Lack of agape love is the major reason why many relationships and marriages are ending in breakups and divorces today as everyone nowadays is only concerned with what they can get rather than what they can give in a relationship or marriage.

4. Don’t Be Unequally Yoked.

Another important thing you need to do if you are a person desiring a godly relationship and looking for a godly wife or godly husband to spend the rest of your life with is you must be equally yoked.

Implying that both of you must be believers sharing the same Christian faith to avoid unnecessary problems in a marriage that will arise as a result of you being unequally yoked in the faith and religious beliefs.

You need to understand as Amos 3:2 tells us in the Old Testament two people cannot walk together unless they agree with each other. This is especially true when it comes to relationships.

For instance, if you choose to marry an unbeliever, it’s just a matter of time before you start having issues in your marriage due to an unequal yoke and two different spirits controlling both of you.

2 Corinthians 6:14 tells us not to be unequally yoked with unbelievers especially when it comes to choosing a marriage partner.

If you want to have a happy godly marriage, follow that scripture without fail so that you don’t end up like others suffering in their marriages.

5. Learn To Forgive Each Other.

Forgiveness is also another important thing you need to practice in your relationship if you want to build a godly relationship that will lead to marriage.

You need to understand that there is no such thing as a perfect person who will never offend you either knowingly or unknowingly in one way or another other as we are imperfect humans with flaws coming from different backgrounds and upbringings.

Even in a godly relationship and godly marriage, offenses are bound to happen because we are dealing with two imperfect humans who need grace from time to time. Learning to forgive each other is what will make you not give up on your partner due to petty offenses.

However, if you understand what true love is all about, you won’t find it hard to let go and forgive the offense your partner has done against you as you will understand that your partner isn’t perfect and needs to be shown grace.

We are told in Ephesians 4:32 that we need to be kind, tender loving to each other, and forgiving each other just as God through Christ’s sake has forgiven us. This will be the case in your relationship if you understand what real love is all about.

6. Pray For Each Other.

Prayer is also vital if you are a person who desires to have a godly relationship with your partner as a Christian couple who plans to spend the rest of your lives together.

Praying for each other in a relationship as a godly couple will help you grow and develop spiritually together in the Lord so that you are both strong in the Lord.

As a Christian couple, you need to understand that there will be many things that will try to separate you and make you resent each other.

The devil will try to bring petty misunderstandings and differences of opinion on life issues to separate you and make you resent each other. James 5:16 tells us that we ought to pray for each other as doing so will make your marriage stronger.

Moreover, if you are praying for each other, all the petty disagreements and offenses you may have in your relationship or marriage won’t separate you as a couple.

But if prayer is lacking in your relationship or marriage, even the slightest petty offenses and misunderstandings will be enough to make you not see eye to eye or begin to rent each other in a marriage relationship.

7. Seek God’s Will.

Last but not least, for you to build and have a godly relationship that brings glory to God you need to first seek God’s will in your relationship.

Implying that, you need to first pray for God’s leading and direction for the person to court and later marry rather than relying on your fleshly feelings for choosing the life partner you desire to spend the rest of your life with.

This step is crucial because you won’t be able to build a godly relationship or marriage that’s in line with God’s will and purpose for your life if you choose to be in a relationship with a person God doesn’t approve of.

You have to learn to trust God rather than lean on your own understanding as Proverbs 3:5,6 tells us when it comes to choosing your future wife or husband you want to share and spend the rest of your life with.

Seeking God’s will during courting is what will enable you to marry the right person God meant for you who will add to your joy and happiness and not subtract from it. Thus making your marriage blissful until death parts you from the day you said, “I do.”

Conclusion.

I hope the above post on how to build a godly relationship in 7 easy steps will now help you have the godly relationship you desire that also brings glory to God.

My prayer is after reading this, the Lord gives you the grace you need to build a godly relationship based on biblical principles, not worldly values that just promotes sexual sin.

In closing, if this post has been a blessing to you relationship-wise, drop a comment below, and don’t forget to share before you leave. God bless.

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