Are you a single Christian woman wondering if the man you are dating is not the one? Then this post on the 10 signs he’s not the one from God will be of great help to you.
As you desire to be a godly wife in a godly marriage, it’s vital you marry the person or the godly man God has for you if you don’t want to end up in a miserable marriage as most have.
This is why this post on the 10 signs he’s not the one from God has been written for you to help you not marry the wrong person and evade trouble or a prayer point early on.
10 Signs He’s Not The One God Has For You.
Below are the 10 signs he’s not the one God has for you that will help you know the person you thought was the one who isn’t God’s will for you.
- Lack Of Peace.
- No Interest In God.
- Unequal Yoke.
- He’s Not Into You.
- Wants You To Commit Sexual Sin.
- Abusive Behavior.
- Fatal Misalignment In Christian Core Values.
- God Has Said A Clear No.
- Not Willing To Lay Down His Life For You.
- Won’t Value You.
1. Lack Of Peace.
Lack of peace is the first sign you will notice as a young Christian woman if you are in courtship with the wrong man the Lord doesn’t want you to be with.
Something just won’t feel right in your heart and you will have a troubled spirit being with this man regardless of how rich, handsome, or charming he is with sweet deceitful words.
If you notice you are not having peace being with the man you are not sure about marrying, It’s God speaking to you saying,” Daughter, the man you want to marry isn’t just it. I have something way better for you.”
2. No Interest In God.
The second sign you will notice is that the man you are dating isn’t God’s choice for you is a lack of interest in the things of God and won’t share the same faith with you in this area.
As a godly woman, never be tempted to marry an ungodly man just because you are desperate for marriage or want to be loved by a man when Jesus Christ is all you need.
If you marry an ungodly man, your marriage will be filled with unnecessary conflicts and arguments since you don’t align with Christian core values.
Marrying an ungodly man out of desperation is the reason why many Christian women are in abusive marriages that are destroying them from the inside. May that not be you.
3. Unequal Yoke.
In 2 Corinthians 6:14 in the New Testament, we are encouraged not to be unequally yoked with unbelievers especially those who don’t share the same faith with us. This is especially true in the area of marriage.
You need to understand as a young Christian lady deeply longing to be in a Christian marriage, God will never yoke you with an unbeliever as He knows that person won’t be the spiritual leader of the home as He wants the person to be.
If you find yourself having an interest in an unbeliever, pray about it so that you don’t make a terrible mistake in this area many are making.
Don’t be desperate for a man and just trust God’s timing that he will give you the right godly man who will truly love you as Christ loved the church and enrich your life with the joy of the Lord.
Related: 10 Graceful Ways To End An Unequally Yoked Relationship.
4. He’s Not Into You.
Additionally, if the man you want to marry isn’t the one God has for you, he won’t just be into you and will be uninterested in spending life with you together.
It’s so sad to see many Christian women desperately clinging to relationships for years awaiting a proposal where the man has made clear intentions that there not interested in them.
You must remember that if a man truly wants to marry you, he will be 100% into you. Stop clinging to a man who doesn’t appreciate your worth and let go of such men as they aren’t worth your time.
5. Wants You To Commit Sexual Sin.
Another sign that will show the man you are dating isn’t not from God is that he will encourage you to have sexual relations outside marriage, which is a no, no if you are a godly woman (1 Cor 6:18).
A godly man who truly loves you with Christ-like love will protect you from sin and will not want to see your nakedness before going to the marriage altar.
If you are with a man who wants to see your nakedness and spread your legs wide open to him, before the marriage covenant, run for your life.
As you determine to maintain your sexual purity by saving yourself for the right man while others are playing a harlot, the Lord will remember and richly reward your faithfulness with a godly man according to your heart’s desires.
Related: 7 Easy Ways To Maintain Sexual Purity While Dating.
6. Abusive Behavior.
If the man you are courting isn’t from God, you will early on notice some abusive and controlling behavior as your courtship progresses and gets serious.
Understand that true love that’s from God isn’t abusive and doesn’t hurt. Stop justifying the abusive behavior of the man you may be dating in the name of love as things will just get worse from there.
As God’s precious daughter, please have some high standards and self-love not to tolerate any abusive behavior of any kind from any man. No man who truly loves you as bones of his bones will abuse you in any way.
Related: 10 Crucial Godly Dating Red Flags You Must Not Ignore.
7. Fatal Misalignment In Christian Core Values.
Another thing that will happen if the man or guy you are dating is unfortunately not the one from God is you will be fatally misaligned with fundamental Christian core values.
This simply means being together is unfeasible, no matter how hard you try with all your might as two people simply just can’t be together unless they agree as Amos 3:2,3 tells us.
If you are in such a situation where you don’t agree on vital Christian values such as faith, family values, or how to raise children, forget about making your relationship work as you are beating a dead horse.
8. God Has Said A Clear No.
Sometimes, God will just say a big no if the man you desire to marry isn’t the one in His plans. If that’s the case, just obey and you will be glad you did.
Sometimes, you may not understand why God has rejected the person you thought was truly the one. But, you must understand only the Lord knows the end from the beginning and what’s hidden in man’s heart.
As painful as it may feel that God has rejected a man you thought was your future husband or your supposedly true love, it’s for your good, trust me.
Just look at women who rejected god’s advice thinking they know better on who to marry and how miserable they are now. I am sure you don’t want to end up in such a predicament.
Related: 7 Sure Signs God Is Saying No To A Relationship.
9. Not Willing To Lay Down His Life For You.
In Ephesians 5:25, the Apostle Paul tells Christian husbands to love their wives as Jesus Christ loves His church and gave Himself up for it so that it can be sanctified by His love.
If the man you are dating isn’t God’s will for you, he won’t be willing to selflessly lay down his life for you as a Christian wife when you marry as the love of Christ will not be in that man for him to do so.
Instead, such men without Christ in them will only look out for themselves and only show love to you if they want their sexual needs met in bed. You must not be surprised if such low-value men have side chicks if you marry them.
10. Won’t Value You.
Last but not least, if the man you are dating isn’t the one from God, he won’t value you as a precious diamond that’s hard to find.
A godly man who wants to marry you will value you like the most precious jewel on earth which will manifest in how he talks and treats you.
A Christian man who truly loves and cherishes you with God’s warm love will value you more than anything in this world just as you will value him, too. Stop wasting time with men who don’t value you and have some self-esteem.
Related: 12 Sure Signs He Doesn’t Value You At All.
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Conclusion.
I hope and pray the above 10 signs he’s not the one from God are the confirmations you needed to be sure if marrying the man you thought was the one was the way to go.
Never be desperate for a man such that you just settle for any over-the-counter man you come across. God has something better for you. Just be patient and trust His timing.
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