Today in this post, we will discuss one of the most controversial topics in the Christian community which is what the bible truly says about divorce and remarriage, and what you need to know about this sensitive topic.
There are many interpretations when it comes to divorce and remarriage most of which are unbiblical. However, you need to stick to what scripture says on this topic so you don’t get deceived.
This post on divorce and remarriage will be straight to the point as you don’t need an eBook to understand what the bible and Jesus Christ say concerning this issue.
Without wasting much of your valuable time, let’s look at what the Bible truly says about divorce and remarriage so that you don’t find yourself in an awkward situation that might make you miss heaven.
Jesus Christ On Divorce And Remarriage.
To fully understand what the bible says concerning divorce and remarriage, we need to see what Jesus Christ said in the New Testament when the Pharisees asked him whether divorce was allowed under any circumstance.
From this, we see that Jesus said marriage was meant for life in Matthew 19:1-8 and proceeded to say that divorce was allowed in the Old Testament because of the hardness of people’s hearts. Otherwise, it wasn’t so from the beginning.
He further goes on to say in Matthew 5:32 that anyone who divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery except for sexual immorality.
In Luke 16:18, He repeats the same statement now adding that any wife who also divorces her husband and marries another commits adultery.
From Jesus’ words, we see that marriage is a lifelong covenant that only ends in death and divorce can only permitted in specific situations such as adultery.
Even so, I encourage you to pray earnestly if you find yourself in such a situation where your spouse has committed adultery and not rush to get divorced and remarried.
Why Are Many Divorces Among Christians?
I know you may be wondering if Jesus Christ forbade divorce and remarriage except for adultery, why are many so-called Christians divorcing and remarrying against God’s word?
The simple answer to that question is the hardness of people’s hearts who don’t want to obey what God’s word says concerning this sensitive topic, and not understanding what true love is all about.
If you claim to be a true heaven-bound Christian, you need to know that divorce must not be an option in your Christian marriage under any circumstance except for adultery.
Even then, forgiveness is encouraged as nothing is impossible with God as many marriages have been restored even after infidelity.
However, that doesn’t mean that you are obliged to be in a marriage with an unrepentant spouse who’s constantly physically cheating on you by committing adultery despite you giving them many chances to change.
In such circumstances, I think it’s wise for you to separate and let God deal with your unrepentant adulterous spouse who thinks there are no consequences to cheating.
Marriage Is For Life.
If you are a single Christian woman or Christian man thinking of getting married, you must know that marriage is for life, and you can’t divorce for frivolous reasons like many fake Christians are.
It’s so sad that many so-called Christians divorce on trivial reasons such as being unhappy, growing apart, etc. which aren’t grounds for divorce.
And if you are divorced and remarried while your first spouse is alive and adultery wasn’t involved, just know you are living in active adultery.
If you die in such a state, you will straight away go to hell as no adulterer shall inherit God’s kingdom. I know this is a hard topic to talk about but this needs to be said as many precious souls are at stake.
It’s so sad that many false prophets, teachers, and pastors authorize their members to divorce and remarry even if adultery wasn’t involved.
How can you say you are a follower of the Lord Jesus Christ if you disobey His directives concerning this matter? Many people if you tell them this sad truth will dismiss you saying God has forgiven them.
True but true repentance involves forsaking your sins and you can’t say you have repented if you are still in your adulterous marriage God’s word forbids.
If you have truly repented, you will forsake and leave your adulterous marriage and seek reconciliation with your first covenant spouse if they are still alive whenever possible.
Can Christians Divorce Under Any Circumstance?
This is a question that is commonly asked among many Christians as well especially those who want to find loopholes and excuses to divorce and remarry.
To begin with, you must know that according to God’s word in Romans 12:1-3, a wife is bound to her husband as long as her husband is alive.’
If a woman divorces her husband and remarries another while the first covenant husband is alive she will be called an adulteress unless the first husband dies.
The above verse also applies to the husband as well who’s also bound to her wife as long as she lives if the husband divorces and remarries while the first covenant wife is alive he’s also an adulterer on his way to hell.
Romans 12:1-3 is the clearest verse you will find in the bible in addition to what Jesus Christ said in Luke 16:18 that explicitly forbids any divorce and remarriage while your first spouse is still alive.
So if you are divorced and remarried while your first spouse is alive, you need to repent from your adulterous marriage if you are serious about entering heaven when all is said and done.
I know it’s hard especially if you have been told otherwise by fake pastors on the pulpit who are divorced and remarried to their second or third wives while their first one is still alive.
But by God’s grace, it’s possible and there are countless testimonies of many Christians who have left their adulterous marriages upon hearing what Scripture says on this issue. Remember, nothing is impossible with God.
Is Abuse Of Any Kind Grounds For Divorce?
This is another sensitive topic that needs to be discussed especially if you are a Christian wife in an abusive marriage and want to do the right thing.
There are many unbiblical opinions concerning the topic of whether you can divorce if abuse especially physical abuse is involved in a marriage.
First of all, you need to understand that it’s not God’s will for you to be in an abusive marriage where you are unloved and where your life is threatened.
Even so, you need to first check what God’s word says on this topic. Unfortunately, no verse in the bible says that abuse is grounds for divorce and remarriage.
But does that mean you must remain stuck in an abusive marriage where you are physically abused to a point where your life and that of your children are under threat?
Of course not but you must also note that in such situations only legal separation is allowed. Now, I won’t tell you to stay or leave an abusive marriage as that’s between you and God.
However, I will tell you this especially if you are a Christian wife seeking a godly answer to this tricky situation and want to do the right thing.
If your life is threatened and are constantly being physically and emotionally abused, please look for a safe place to stay and physically separate from your abusive husband who sees no value in you no matter what you do for him.
Yes, the bible does, allow legal physical separation from your unrepentant abusive spouse in such extreme situations (1 Cor 7:1-15). Not that only physical separation, not divorce is allowed.
If you are divorced already, then remain single and give yourself time to heal and please don’t remarry as you will now be committing adultery if you do so.
What Of 1 Corinthians 7:1-15.
This is another verse that we need to talk about concerning the issue of divorce and remarriage as many use that verse to justify that they can divorce and remarry.
However, if you read that chapter closely, no verse in that chapter explicitly says the wife or husband can divorce and remarry. If that’s the case, then, what Jesus said in Luke 16:18 instantly becomes null and void.
That chapter only says that if the unbelieving spouse departs, they can do so. It doesn’t say that you can now be free to remarry as the unbelieving spouse is still alive unless adultery was involved.
It’s why this same chapter in 1 Corinthians 7:12-15 says that the husband or wife must not seek to divorce the other spouse if the unbelieving spouse desires to live with them.
I can only encourage you to pray if you are in such a complicated situation. Never mind those fake Christians who falsely justify the above chapter that they can divorce and remarry.
Remember, when you went on that marriage altar, you made your vow to God and your spouse that you will be with them for better or for worse till death do you part.
To do otherwise means you have broken your marriage vow and God won’t hold you innocent concerning that. You must know that marriage isn’t about convenience or your happiness but it’s there to conform you to Christ’s likeness.
What Next Then?
Now that you know what God’s word and Jesus Christ says concerning divorce and remarriage, I pray that you will not find yourself in such a complicated situation that will endanger your soul.
Yes, marriage is beautiful, and there is nothing more fulfilling in this world than marrying a godly spouse who truly loves you as being truly loved by your Christian spouse is unlike anything.
On the other hand, you need to remember that marriage only ends in the death of another spouse and that no divorce and remarriage is allowed while your first spouse is alive unless adultery is involved.
Even so, prayer is actively encouraged in such situations so that you don’t make mistakes many are making which is the reason why many are in unhealthy and abusive marriages today which isn’t God’s will for you.
God’s will for you dear is that you have a happy and fulfilling Christian marriage where you are truly loved, cherished, respected, and valued by your spouse. Not a marriage where you are unloved or abused endlessly.
Seek Godly Wisdom If You Need Separation.
As I said earlier if you are in an extremely abusive marriage though I don’t encourage you to divorce, please look for a safe place to stay especially if your life is under threat.
Don’t say you are fighting for your marriage while you are being beaten up daily. Yes, you can still fight for your marriage and pray for your spouse while legally separated. Sometimes, God expects you to use your common sense.
Don’t allow yourself to die before your time at the hands of your abuser as many unfortunate Christian women, and wives have at the hands of their violent, neglectful, and abusive devilish husbands.
How can you say you love your wife dearly if you turn your wife into a punching bag, and neglect her needs? If you are such a man who beats your wife, you are devilish and you won’t go unpunished for your wickedness.
As a godly wife with a physically neglectful violent abusive unrepentant husband, separation in such situations is a wise thing to do, and don’t say you love him as to why you are tolerating abuse. You can love and pray for him at a safe distance.
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Conclusion.
I hope and pray the above post on what the bible truly says about divorce and remarriage has now helped you know the truth concerning this matter.
As you leave, know that marriage is for life and if you are divorced and remarried while your first spouse is alive, you need to abandon your adulterous marriage as it’s against God’s word.
Don’t let marriage or wanting to be loved by another imperfect person be the reason why you fail to make heaven as making heaven is more important than any earthy marriage.
In closing, if you found this post helpful, comment below and feel free to ask any burning questions you may have on this topic, and remember to share as you leave. God bless.