When God Says No To A Relationship. {Here’s What To Do.}

What do you do when God says no to a relationship? I know this can be the most frustrating experience you can have in your love life especially if you are looking for a life partner.

You may say that you loved this man or woman you dreamt of walking down the aisle with and spending the rest of your life with. However, for some reason, God said a big no to being with this person.

As a result, you are confused. You may be saying why would God say no to my relationship even when the person you want to marry seems to tick all the boxes externally and so it seems in your eyes?

There are many reasons why God may say no to the relationship you are currently in. you may not understand right now why God doesn’t want you to be with a person you thought you would spend the rest of your life with.

Moreover, you need to understand that only God knows what’s best for you even when it comes to your love life, finding true love, and relationships.

In this post, we briefly discuss things you need to do when God says no to a relationship or a person you thought was the one and why God says no to certain relationships.

Why God Says No To Relationships.

There are many reasons why God may say no to a relationship you may currently be in or a person you may be courting. One of the major reasons why God may not want you to be with the person you currently think may be the one is it’s not His will for your life.

But you may be wondering in your mind with great disappointment why God may be saying no to your relationship even when everything outside seems to tick all the boxes.

Yes, you may say you love this person with all your heart and that you have chemistry and everything seems to click on the outside.

However, you need to understand that loving someone doesn’t automatically make a person a marriage material or a good fit for you in the long run.

Since God knows the end from the beginning as Isaiah 46:10 tells us, He may terminate your relationship with a particular person as that person isn’t in line with His perfect will for your life.

God will only allow you to marry someone in line with His will and most important purpose for your life. Wanting to marry or be with someone who isn’t in line which God’s purpose for your life is one of the worst things you can do to yourself concerning your love life.

Also Read: Does God Answer Prayers About Relationships All The Time?

God May Say No Due To Unequal Yoke

An unequal yoke may be another reason why God may be saying no to your relationship or someone you thought was your potential marriage partner.

2 Corinthians 6:14 tells us that we must not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. So as a person looking for a godly husband or godly wife, you need to ensure the person you want to marry is of the same faith as you.

Otherwise, you will have many problems and disagreements arising in your marriage due to the different faiths you practice, especially when raising children.

You may not see it now as you are courting as love blinds many people but you will surely see it then when you tie the knot. But it may be too late by then.

As Amos 3:2,3 tells us in the old testament, two people cannot walk together unless there are in agreement with each other including issues of faith and religion.

You may say the person you are dating is good and that he or she loves you. Yes, that may appear to be true on the surface given the fact that many people pretend during courtship.

Just because a person claims they love you during dating or courtship doesn’t mean they’re the right person for you especially if you fundamentally disagree on many crucial life issues relating to faith.

Marrying an unbeliever as a Christian is one of the worst things you can do to yourself. Just ask many people suffering in their marriages due to them marrying an unbeliever they thought was the one and a Christian.

Also Read: 11 Vital Things To Discuss In A Godly Relationship Before Marriage.

God Says No As He Knows Better.

Another reason God may say no to a relationship you may be in is that He knows that the person you are with isn’t the right one for you.

You may say that this person pleases you well and makes you have butterflies in your stomach but you need to remember that only God can see what’s inside the heart of every person.

You, on the other hand, cannot see what’s in a person’s heart as you are a human who’s easily deceived by outward appearances (1 Samuel 16:7). All you can see is what people want to show you but not necessarily what you need to see to make an informed decision.

Just look at the people who married according to what their eyes saw and mistook love for lust instead of listening to God for who to marry and how miserable they are in their marriages now.

These same people thought they found the one. But lol and behold when they said,” I do,” that’s when the trouble began. It’s when they now began to see the true colors of the person they thought they were the one.

People Are Good Pretenders.

One thing you need to remember is people are good at pretending especially during times of courtship and it takes God’s leading via the Holy Spirit to help you discern that the person you think is the one is just a distraction from Satan.

Remember, God knows why He doesn’t want you to be with a particular person and I can promise you will be thankful later that God never allowed you to be with a person you thought was the one when you find the right.

Everything will make sense when God reveals to you the one He meant for you that will be a blessing to you and not a burden to you. It’s better to have a broken relationship not meant for you and end it than to suffer in one for a lifetime.

All of a sudden, you will now understand why things never worked out with your previous relationship. Remember, God gives only good and perfect gifts including life partners as James 1:17 tells us in the New Testament.

God will never give you a person who will be a burden to you, physically, verbally, and emotionally abusive to you. Most end up with abusive spouses, as they don’t consult God when choosing their life partners.

What To Do When God Says No.

Now that God said no and you have now broken up with a heavy heart with a person you thought was your future husband or future wife, what next?  You may ask.

I know if you have had a breakup you may be wondering about this question and thinking you may not find true love again or find a person who will truly love you for who you are.

There are many things you can do after when God has said no to a relationship that never materialized into a marriage. One of the best things you can do in such a situation involves prayer concerning your situation.

You need to understand that God saying no to a person you thought was marriage material doesn’t mean your prayer request concerning a life partner to marry hasn’t been answered as He has something better in store for you.

Another thing to do is not to try to ignore God’s warning as to why He’s refused you to be with a particular person as those who ignored God’s warnings are suffering as you are reading this.

Remember, only God knows a suitable life partner for you as He’s the perfect matchmaker as we see in Genesis 2:1-24 where God made Adan a suitable mate. You as well will be blessed with a suitable mate when the time is right.

Lastly, don’t lose hope for a life partner and be patient because at the right time, God will reveal the right person for you to marry and when that person comes, you will know deep down in your heart that this is God’s doing.

Until then, keep praying and don’t lose hope just because your previous romantic relationship never worked out, and become desperate to marry anyone you come across even if such people are not right for you.


I hope the above post on when God says no to a relationship has now helped you understand why God never allowed certain relationships to work out in your life as you hoped. As you leave, don’t forget to share this post on social media as many need to see this. God bless.

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