Are you a single Christian woman dating in a relationship and wondering if the man you are with or want to marry values you or not? If so, this post on the 12 signs he doesn’t value you is for you.
Many signs and red flags will show in your relationship if the guy you are dating or courting doesn’t value you, making them an unsuitable life partner for you to marry.
With that aside, let’s quickly discuss the 12 signs he doesn’t value you in a Christian relationship that will clearly indicate the man you are dating is just wasting your time.
12 Signs He Doesn’t Value You.
Below are the 12 signs you are not being valued in a relationship that will tell you it’s time to move on with your life.
1. He Abuses You.
The first sign you will that he doesn’t value you as his future precious wife in the Lord is he will abuse you physically, emotionally, verbally, and even spiritually.
A godly man who truly loves and values you won’t abuse you in any form as you are precious and sacred to him. It’s so sad many desperate Christian women cling to abusive men in the name of love and you know how the story ends.
If you notice any signs of abuse early on, end that relationship fast if you don’t want to be another domestic violence statistic who ends up being sent to your early grave.
2. He Takes You For Granted.
The second sign you will notice that he’s not valuing you at all in a relationship as you date each other romantically is he will take you for granted like no man’s business.
No matter how good you are to him or what you do for him, it will mean little which will show in the way he treats or belittles you in private or even in public in front of other people.
As a young single Christian lady, I encourage you to not waste your time dating and courting a man or guy who has clearly made their intentions that they don’t love or want to be with you long term.
3. He Doesn’t Care About Your Love Language.
Thirdly, another indicator that will show the guy you are dating or courting in a Christian relationship doesn’t treasure you is he will care less about what your love language is.
For your information, let me tell you that being with a partner who understands and speaks your love language is crucial if you want to be in a marriage where you will feel loved.
If the man you are with isn’t willing to learn and understand your love language, it’s a sign he doesn’t truly love you at all nor is he truly committed to you. A man who truly values you will take his time to learn your love language.
4. He Doesn’t Want To Spend Time With You.
Additionally, if a guy you are dating or courting doesn’t value you as his precious queen and priceless treasure, he will not want to spend time with you at all.
A man who truly loves you and is into you as his beloved future wife will desire to spend time with you more than anybody else to study and know you better.
So, if you are with a man who doesn’t desire to spend time with you to get to know you better, view that as a sign he’s rejected you indirectly and that there is someone else in the picture.
5. He Treats You As An Option.
A man who doesn’t truly treasure you dearly will also treat you like an option or a mere placeholder just waiting to be replaced by someone else.
One thing you need to know about men as a single lady out there wondering why the man you are pouring all your heart into is treating you like an afterthought is men only invest in what they value, period.
If you are with a man who’s treating you like an option in a relationship just know he doesn’t value you at all and move on with your life as you aren’t important to him, anyway.
So, why waste your time convincing him to love you when he’s clearly told you he doesn’t want you at all? A man who truly values you will prioritize you as you will be the most valuable person to him.
6. He Cheats On You.
Additionally, the other red flag you will notice that the man you are desperately trying to make value and love you isn’t just into you is he will cheat on you unapologetically.
A man who truly loves and values you will never cheat on you or betray your trust like that. Men only cheat on women or wives they don’t value or love.
If a man loves you, why must he cheat on you? Don’t tolerate any cheating and if you have been cheated on early on in your relationship, it’s time to break up and move on.
Value yourself enough to resolve that you won’t tolerate any cheating in the name of love. If he cheats on you in a relationship, what makes you think he won’t cheat on you once married?
7. He Plays Games With You.
A man who doesn’t truly value you will also play naughty games with you and your emotions because a serious man who values you has no time for such childish games.
It’s why you may wonder why you aren’t seeing a ring on your finger even after dating and courting each other for a long time. When you ask about it, he gives you funny and senseless excuses.
If you are with such a man, I think it’s time for you to re-evaluate yourself in that dead-end relationship that’s heading nowhere and decide whether you will move on or continue wasting your time with that man.
8. No Marriage Discussions In Sight.
The other sign you will notice that he doesn’t value you at all is you will notice that there are no marriage discussions in sight despite dating for a long time making you end up in a situationship.
Such men will only want wife benefits from you which you must not be giving, anyway if you are single without any serious commitment from them to finally make that big step of commitment to marry you on the marriage altar.
They will keep postponing any discussions concerning marriage if you bring them up and even get angry at you as if you have committed a crime. Don’t waste your time with such men and just move on.
9. He Just Wants You For Sex.
Yes, you hear me, lady. A man who doesn’t value you will only want you for sex and only pretend to love you if he wants his sexual desires met.
As a young Christian woman, you well know that sex before marriage isn’t right and you must not indulge in any sexual relations with any man you aren’t married to.
It’s why 1 Corinthians 6:18 tells Christian couples to flee sexual immorality which is commonplace today. Never open your legs to a man promising you love before putting a ring on your finger.
Keep your legs tightly crossed and closed. Any man who wants you to open your legs for him without going on the marriage altar isn’t from God and you must dump him immediately.
10. Criticism Is His Love Language.
A man who doesn’t value you will also constantly criticize you and see everything wrong with you while he will think he’s an angel with nothing wrong with him while everything is wrong with him.
He will constantly point out your flaws, put down your ideas, and make degrading jokes about you or your physical appearance.
Never waste your precious time and emotional energy with a man who’s hell-bent on making you feel insecure and undervalued when there are way better godly men out there ready to value and treat you like a queen.
11. Your Feelings Are Like Background Noise.
The other clue that you will notice that the man you are dating doesn’t value you is your feelings won’t matter and will be nothing more than irritating background noise to him.
This will explain why the man you are in a romantic relationship with is insensitive to your feelings as they don’t matter to him, anyway. It’s why he won’t care about doing things that badly hurt your feelings.
When you try to express your feelings and concern about how he’s mistreating you, your concerns will be shrugged off and he will even blame you for being too sensitive for nothing.
As a young Christian lady, you must not tolerate being with a man who doesn’t care about hurting your feelings as that indicates you are dating a covert narcissist, and things will just get worse as time goes by.
12. Honesty Is A Foreign Concept.
Lastly, a man who sees no value in you will see no reason to be honest with you in everything which is why he will see nothing wrong with cheating and lying to your face.
Everything will be suspicious about him and when you try to find out why he’s acting the way he’s doing, he will come up with all sorts of lies unless you catch him red-handed that’s when he’ll tell the truth.
A man who loves you will not tell you lies as he knows trust is a very important thing in any relationship if it’s to succeed. Don’t give yourself to any man who will give you a reason not to trust him.
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Conclusion.
I hope the above 12 signs he doesn’t value you will now help you know if the man you may currently dating truly loves you or if he’s just wasting your time.
As a young godly woman looking forward to marriage, don’t let desperation and the fear of being alone make you settle for a man you know doesn’t see your worth despite what you do for him.
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