In this post, I will show you the 7 effective ways of developing healthy godly relationships that will help you have a future healthy godly marriage.
It’s just a matter of fact that being in a healthy godly relationship that uplifts you helps you to be a better person and helps you grow as a couple.
That aside, let’s look at the 7 ways of developing healthy godly relationships that will help you have healthy relationships that are not toxic or detrimental to your wellbeing.
7 Healthy Godly Relationship Tips.
Below are the healthy godly relationship tips that will help you have a happy and enriching godly relationship that will uplift you and not drag you down as toxic relationships do.
1. Have Healthy Boundaries.
The first way you can develop a healthy godly relationship with your godly partner as a couple during dating is you need to have healthy boundaries that will keep both of you in check.
Having healthy boundaries in a relationship is crucial as that will protect you from unhealthy and toxic behaviors from a toxic partner as they will act as a deterrent.
Not having healthy boundaries in your relationship as a Christian will just be a license you will indicate to others that they can treat you however you want without any consequences.
You need to love yourself by having clear boundaries that you must make clear to your partner that they must not cross and if they do, they must forget about being in a relationship with you.
Lack of healthy boundaries is one of the major reasons why many Christians especially desperate Christian women end up staying with abusive partners in the name of love.
Yes, you can forgive but don’t be a doormat in the process. You are not obliged to be in a relationship where you are abused and unloved even after giving your partner chances to change.
2. Resolve Conflicts Healthily.
The second way you can develop a healthy enriching godly relationship as a couple is to have healthy conflict resolution skills and resolve any conflicts you have as a couple in a healthy manner.
Yes, even as a Christian couple during dating and even when you get married, conflicts are inevitable as you aren’t faultless angels but how you resolve them is what matters.
Avoid shouting and yelling at each other when in conflict, as that will just push you further apart. Always remember that it’s not you against each other but both against the problem.
This is why you have no reason to utter disrespectful and insulting words to the partner you claim to love all because of a simple misunderstanding. Otherwise, where is the Christianity?
It’s so sad that many toxic relationships in Christian circles are like this with couples who have poor conflict resolution skills and disrespect each other with words. This ought not to be so if you are a spirit-filled Christian couple.
3. Respect Each Other.
Thirdly, to develop a godly relationship that is healthy and free from any drama, you need to respect each other by treating each other with dignity other than as commanded in Romans 12:10.
Respect is one of the most important things that must be present in any healthy Christian relationship whose foundation is Jesus Christ.
You can’t say you truly love your partner if you disrespect them with your words and acting. If you love your significant other as a Christian, you will treat them with the respect and dignity they deserve.
If you are in a relationship where your partner disrespects you, talk about the issue and if that person refuses to change, just dump them as they aren’t worth your time.
Never be in a relationship in the name of love where you are disrespected and undervalued by a person who claims to love you and worse of all claims to be a Christian.
4. Don’t Tolerate Abuse.
Another thing you must do if you want to have a healthy godly relationship where you are loved, cherished, and respected is you must under no circumstance tolerate abuse of any kind.
Understand that true love from God doesn’t abuse nor does it hurt you. This is why you must not justify being in an abusive relationship in the name of love, especially as a young single Christian woman.
It’s so sad that many Christian women and men to some extent are stuck in abusive relationships thinking abuse is love or that they can change him or her.
However, you need to remember that only God can change a person’s heart. It’s not your job to fix the character defects of another person, especially the ones who see no fault in their actions.
You can’t have a healthy Christian relationship if you are giving the green light to toxic and abusive relationships. God wants you to be in a healthy relationship that will draw you closer to Him and bring out the best in you.
Not relationships that will make you question God’s love. Get out of such abusive relationships that distort God’s love if you are in one and never tolerate abuse even as a Christian as you aren’t a doormat.
5. Have A Strong Relationship With God.
It’s just a matter of fact that having a strong relationship with God is vital if you want to have a healthy godly relationship with the significant other you plan to spend the rest of your life with.
Having a strong relationship with God is what will help you have healthy relationships with others as well. If your relationship with God is broken, it will reflect in your relationship with others.
The reason why many Christian relationships are in a deplorable state is because their relationship with God has been severed. This is why many such relationships are toxic and unhealthy.
You need to understand that God is the author of relationships and it’s only through Him can we learn what healthy relationships are all about and how we must treat each other in love and respect.
Due to our fallen nature, we find relationships hard because they require sacrifice which just doesn’t go well with the selfish nature we inherently have. This explains why most relationships end in breakups.
This is why before entering any relationship, ensure your relationship with God is sound as that is what will help you have healthy godly relationships where you truly and selflessly love each other as Jesus Christ loved us (John 13:34).
6. Pray For Each Other.
Praying for each other especially as a couple as you date or court each other for marriage is one of the best things you can do for each other to have a healthy relationship.
Prayer draws you together as a Christian couple and it helps you develop an attitude of praying together that you will import in your marriage which will help and strengthen your future bond as a married couple.
Of course, when praying together as a couple especially if you have started a serious courtship, you must go about it with wisdom and not give a chance to Satan to make you do funny things.
Implying that you must pray in the open. Not in closed places where the devil will tempt you to do other things. Pray for each other so that nothing will separate you and submit your weaknesses you both have to God.
When you pray together, you both ward off any unhealthy habits and bad influences that might negatively affect your relationship or hinder you from being in unity.
7. Practice Forgiveness
Lastly, another thing that will help you have a godly relationship with your potential future spouse as you date is to learn to forgive each other as commanded in Ephesians 4:32.
Forgiveness is what will help you stay together and make you have a successful godly marriage which is made up of two godly spouses who have mastered the art of showing grace and forgiveness to each other.
You need to understand that no one is perfect and without flaws which is why even as a Christian couple, you will offend each other at times, knowingly and unknowingly.
When that happens, this is an opportunity to show and prove God’s love truly reigns in your heart by showing grace and forgiveness to your significant other when they wrong you.
Otherwise, how can you say you love your partner or your spouse if you can’t forgive them for their wrongs? If you can’t forgive your partner or show grace to them when wronged, it shows you don’t love your partner at all.
Let love and forgiveness reign in your relationship as that’s what will keep you together and prove you understand what it means to truly love a person as God expects you to.
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Conclusion.
There you have it, the 7 ways of developing healthy godly relationships that will help you have happy and fulfilling Christian relationships that aren’t toxic but bring out the best in you.
Pray about what you have just read so that you can implement them in your life as that’s where the problem of many is. Reading is not enough. You have to put what you’ve read into practice.
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