post, you will discover 10 vital Christian rules for dating to follow as a Christian couple that will help you date and court Godly without falling into sexual sin.
As a Christian man or woman, there are biblical principles you need to follow in your godly relationship if you are in courtship as you look forward to a godly marriage.
With that said, let’s discuss the 10 golden rules for Christian dating that will help you date in a godly manner and avoid worldly dating practices leading many into sexual immorality.
10 Godly Dating Rules For Godly Couples.
- Seek God First.
- Be In Agreement On Vital Issues.
- Don’t Ignore Red Flags Please.
- Don’t Tolerate Abuse.
- Flee Sexual Immorality.
- Be Chaste.
- Have Healthy Boundaries.
- Follow Biblical Standards.
- Know Each Other Well.
- Get God’s Final Approval.
1. Seek God First.
The first Christian dating rule you must follow as a Christian single in a dating relationship is to seek God first if you want your relationship to stand the test of time.
Seeking God first in your relationship during courtship will help you know if the relationship you are both pursuing is God’s will and purpose for both of you.
Otherwise, if you don’t seek god first, you won’t know if the Christian relationship you are both pursuing is God’s will for you and won’t likely stand the test of time when trials come.
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2. Be In Agreement On Vital Issues.
The second vital dating rule to follow if you are a Christian single who’s currently dating is you need to agree on key issues such as faith, raising children, finance, and anything vital for you to be together.
Amos 3:2 tells us that two people can’t walk together except they agree which is especially true when it comes to relationships. Ensure that there are no relationship deal breakers as you are courting and looking forward to marriage.
If you are not agreeing early in your relationship on vital issues especially on matters of faith or Christian core values, you are better off going your separate ways. Otherwise, if you proceed, you’ll just have problems in the future if you marry.
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3. Don’t Ignore Red Flags Please.
Another golden rule you must follow in a Christian dating relationship is you must not at any point ignore serious red flags God may be bringing to your attention such as abuse of any kind.
Don’t say he or she will change when I marry them which sadly is the mistake most Christian women desperate for marriage make, you need to understand that marriage doesn’t change anyone but only amplifies what was already there.
Ignoring red flags is the reason why many especially Christian women are in abusive and miserable marriages that are hell on earth. Don’t be that person, please. Take all the reflags seriously and don’t think you can change him.
4. Don’t Tolerate Abuse.
The other golden rule for Christian dating you must follow is don’t tolerate any form of abuse be it physical, verbal, or emotional abuse, and justify it in any form.
You need to understand that true love doesn’t hurt and isn’t abusive in any form. No matter how handsome that man is if he’s abusive, you need to reconsider that relationship.
If you tolerate abuse from the onset from your partner, they will likely be abusive if you get married. It’s sad that many women ignore these red flags of abuse and think they can change that man which couldn’t be further from the truth.
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5. Flee Sexual Immorality.
The apostle Paul tells us in 1 Corinthians 6:18 in the New Testament that we must feel all forms of sexual immorality which is especially true if you are a Christian couple in courtship.
As a Christian woman or man, you must refrain from all forms of fornication avoid sleeping with each other before marriage, and save physical intimacy for marriage.
Avoid following worldly dating advice that just promotes sexual promiscuity. Follow and pursue sexual purity as a Christian couple even during dating and you will be rewarded for your faithfulness.
6. Be Chaste.
As a godly couple in courtship, you both need to be chaste and avoid playing a harlot and being careless with your bodies. By being chaste, it means you must not see each other’s nakedness before you say, “I do.”
1 Thessalonians 4:3 tells us that it’s God’s will that we flee fornication. You need to understand as a Christian couple in a relationship, you can’t follow worldly dating advice that encourages sleeping around before marriage.
As a Christian woman, you must not at any time spread your legs wide open to any Jim and Jack there who’s not your spouse. And as a man, don’t carelessly dump your seed into every woman you see if you aren’t ready to be a father, please.
Check: How To Overcome Sexual Immorality As A Christian Single?
7. Have Healthy Boundaries.
As a Christian dating couple looking forward to a healthy Christian marriage, it’s vital you also have healthy boundaries that will protect you from sexual sin and all forms of abuse.
Healthy boundaries in your relationship are what will help you respect each other and not do things that are contrary to scripture and that will hurt each other.
Lack of godly healthy boundaries is the reason why many Christian couples are in abusive relationships that are unhealthy and detrimental to their spiritual and emotional well-being. Don’t date a person who disrespects your boundaries.
Check: 7 Vital Boundaries You Must Have While In A Godly Relationship.
8. Follow Biblical Standards.
It’s also vital as a Christian couple in courtship, you follow bible standards established by the bible when it comes to courtship and godly dating especially if you are still Christian teens.
Following scriptural standards during your dating period will ensure you do things the right way so that you can marry right and avoid costly mistakes many make due to disobedience.
As a godly couple, let the bible be the gold standard in your relationship as doing so will set you up for success in your future marriage together as you share your lives in holy matrimony.
9. Know Each Other Well.
Knowing each other well as young adults and potential future spouses in a Christian relationship is vital so that you can know early on if you are right for each other and if you have identical values.
If you don’t know each other well early in your relationship, you are just setting yourself up for failure as you won’t serve each other the way you ought to as you don’t know each other’s needs well enough.
So, if you are dating, my dating advice during this period is to get to know your partner well before taking things seriously so that you can spot potential red flags and deal breakers that may cause your relationship to fail.
10. Get God’s Final Approval.
Last but not least, the other dating advice I can give if you want to know the right person to marry is to get God’s final approval first on the person you wish to marry.
Doing so will help you marry the right person God has approved for you who will help you fulfill God’s will and purpose in your life.
Don’t allow the flesh or lust to mislead you on who to marry. Let God lead you to the right person and you won’t regret it.
Not getting God’s final approval in whom to marry after dating is the main reason why many married couples are unhappy in their marriages and have ended up with abusive partners who abuse them.
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Conclusion.
I hope the above 10 Christian rules for dating will help you date in a godly manner and avoid any sexual sin or sexual activity with the opposite sex before you marry.
As you embark on this godly dating journey to find your potential spouse, I pray that God leads you to the right person to marry so that you have a happy Christian marriage in the future.
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