It’s just a matter of fact that Christian marriage goals will help you have a more successful and divorce-proof marriage.
In this article, we shall discuss the 13 goals every married Christian couple must have if they want their marriage to be successful and heaven on earth.
If you don’t have any yet, let the 13 Christian marriage goals below be a source of inspiration in creating your own goals for your godly marriage. Let’s dive in.
13 Marriage Goals For Godly Couples.
Below are the godly marriage goals that will take your marriage to the next level as you pursue God together and do life together.
- Seek The Best For Each Other.
- Do Good To Each Other.
- Serve God together.
- Selflessly Love Each Other.
- Make Heaven Your Ultimate Goal.
- Have Regular Physical Intimacy.
- Pray Together.
- No Divorce.
- Spice Your Marriage With Passionate Romance.
- Treat Each Other With Respect.
- Read The Bible Together.
- Forgive Each Other.
- Spend Time Together.
1. Seek The Best For Each Other.
The first goal you need to have as a married couple in the Lord is to seek the best for each other rather than seeking one’s selfish interest at the expense of your spouse.
When you seek the best for each other as godly spouses in holy matrimony, your marriage will increase tenfold. Remember, true love is all about desiring the best for your partner without any selfish motives.
The reason why many Christian marriages aren’t the way they ought to is because many spouses don’t seek the best for the other by doing them good. Instead, everyone is about themselves and what they can get from the other.
2. Do Good To Each Other.
The second goal you need to have as a Christian couple in a godly marriage is the desire to do good to one another all the time.
As a Christian wife, seek to do good to your husband by doing things your husband likes. Proverbs 31:10-12 says that a good wife does her husband good all the days of her life. Be that precious godly wife to your godly man.
Conversely, as a Christian husband, desire to do good to your wife all the days of your life by loving her as commended in Ephesians 5:25 as well as doing things that delight your wife’s, tender heart.
3. Serve God Together.
Serving God together as a married couple must be one of the top marital goals you need to have as husband and wife which will both draw you closer to God.
If you serve the Lord together, you will discover that you will become closer to God and each other. Remember even in your marriage as Christians, your aim must be to glorify God.
Serving God together has another added benefit that will strengthen your marriage and help you grow spiritually together as a Christian couple.
Check: 5 Main Purposes Of A Christian Marriage According To The Bible.
4. Selflessly Love Each Other.
Loving each other selflessly is what makes any healthy Christian marriage beautiful as it reflects the love Christ has for His church which is pure, selfless, and all about serving each other.
It’s why you must make loving each other selflessly as Christian spouses, your marriage goal. It’s why Ephesians 5:25 encourages Christian husbands to love their wives as Christ loved the church.
You can only truly and selflessly love each other as a couple if you make loving each other as Jesus Christ first loved you a priority in your marriage relationship. Doing so will make you inseparable.
Check: 12 Practical Examples Of Agape Love God Wants Us To Show.
5. Make Heaven Your Ultimate Goal.
Even as you are married as husband and wife in holy matrimony, you must make spending eternity together in heaven your ultimate goal in your Christian marriage.
Won’t it be beautiful to finally see the only true love of your life you had on earth finally unite eternally in heaven with zero risks of separation?
I am sure you desire that one day. This is why you must make it easier for your spouse to make heaven by encouraging them to pursue God and be the Christian spouse they ought to be.
Sadly, most marriages are making it harder for one to make it to heaven considering how unhealthy, toxic, and abusive most marriages have become even in Christian circles.
6. Have Regular Physical Intimacy.
Having a regular intimate marriage life must be one of your top Christian marriage goals as a married couple. Implying that you must seek to have regular physical intimacy as a couple.
Develop a habit of practicing regular physical intimacy together as that’s vital in drawing you closer together and strengthening your bond in marriage. Say no to a cold and dead bedroom.
It’s why in 1 Corinthians 7:5 married spouses in a godly marriage are encouraged not to deprive each other sexually as sexual intimacy makes you one as a couple.
It’s so sad many spouses use sexual intimacy as a weapon to control the other spouse which is sinful indeed. If you are truly a godly spouse who truly loves your partner with Christ-like love, you won’t use physical intimacy as a tool for manipulation.
7. Pray Together.
As a married couple, prayer is something that you must desire to do together as it will greatly help strengthen your marriage.
Praying together as husband and wife will greatly help you get closer and grow spiritually. If you don’t pray together, you will also notice that you will become distant from each other.
Lack of prayer is the reason why many Christian marriages are limping and in shambles, as many couples have neglected the importance of prayer in their marriages.
If you want your marriage to be strong and divorce-proof, pray together as a couple because Satan is on a rampage like a madman attacking many marriages especially those with zero prayer activity.
8. No Divorce.
This is another crucial marital goal you must have as couples claiming to be Christians as marriage in Christianity is for life until death do you part.
You need to understand that once you get married, only death can separate you. Never mind those who are divorcing and remarrying while their first convent spouses are alive.
Jesus Christ tells us in Luke 16:18 that anyone who divorces their spouse and marries another while the covenant spouse is alive is committing and living in continuous adultery.
With this knowledge, make sure you agree that divorce isn’t an option, come what may. After all, if you are genuine believers, you won’t be divorced as you will understand God’s love doesn’t fail.
Check: What Jesus Truly Said About Divorce And Remarriage.
9. Spice Your Marriage With Passionate Romance.
Just because you are Christian doesn’t mean your marriage must be sterile and boring as hell. As Christian lovebirds madly in love with each other, desire to be more passionate with each other romantically.
If you are struggling with passionate romance in your Christian marriage, get inspiration from Songs Of Solomon chapters 1-8 for ideas you can use to spice up your marriage.
It’s so sad that many Christian marriages struggle in this area. However, if you truly love each other and are into each other, you won’t find it hard to be romantic to your spouse.
You can hug, kiss, and say nice romantic words to each other to raise the heat of passion in your marriage. Do that regularly and you will be amazed at how close you will get together.
10. Treat Each Other With Respect.
It’s just a matter of fact respect is crucial for having a healthy Christian marriage and respecting each other must be one of your top goals in a marriage.
Otherwise, how can you say you love your spouse if you disrespect them by how you treat them and the things you say? As a Christian woman and wife, aim to respect your husband as commanded in Ephesians 5:33.
Amazingly, many church-going spouses don’t know how to repeat each other, yet they claim to be Christians. The things you hear in many of these unhealthy marriages will leave you shocked.
For instance, it’s not uncommon to hear a pastor is physically and emotionally abusive to their wife while painting a picture-perfect image of being a good person outwardly but being a dragon to their wife at home.
11. Read The Bible Together.
Reading the bible together as a couple will draw you closer in ways you never thought possible which will help you not grow apart as time goes by.
If you don’t pray and read God’s word together, you will find yourselves increasingly distant from each other spiritually and physically.
It’s why you hear many Christian couples growing apart and getting tired of each other over time. This is because these couples haven’t developed a habit of reading the bible together to bring them closer.
There is no way you will grow apart as a Christian couple if you daily pray and read the bible together because there is power in doing so as it makes your marriage stronger.
12. Forgive Each Other.
Forgiving each other is another marriage goal that you need to have in your Christian marriage as you can’t build a successful marriage on the foundation of unforgiveness.
You need to understand even as Christians in your marriage, you are going to offend each other as you are still imperfect humans and none is perfect and above reproach.
Never go to the bedroom to sleep if you are harboring anger against your spouse. Always show grace and forgiveness when your significant other offends you as it shows you truly love them.
Forgiveness must be your daily ritual in your marriage union as commended in Ephesians 4:32 as any successful godly marriage is all about two imperfect people who have mastered the art of forgiving each other.
13. Spend Time Together.
Last but not least, spending time together must be your goal in a Christian marriage if you don’t want to be like roommates or get friend-zoned in your marriage.
If you can’t spend time together as a couple, what’s the purpose of getting married to each other in the first place? Not spending time together will make you increasingly distant from each other.
It will also expose you to temptations such as extramarital affairs which are a big no if you are a Christian who believes in the sanctity of marriage which is honorable and sacred (Hebrews 13:4-6).
Lack of spending time together is the reason why affairs and infidelities are on the rise even among Christians as they’ve given Satan a loophole to tempt them and ruin their marriages. Let this not be you, please.
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Conclusion.
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As you leave, I hope and pray that you will implement what you have read in this post if you desire to have a happy Christian marriage that will be heaven on earth.
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