In this post, I will share the 12 vital Christian relationship goals every Christian couple who is looking forward to a happy and successful Christian marriage must have.
As a young Christian woman or Christian man in a godly relationship, you need to have relationship goals you want to achieve at the end, which is what this post will help you.
If you don’t have any, let these 12 Christian relationship goals be a head start that will help you progress in your godly relationship as you desire marriage. Let’s dive in.
12 Godly Relationship Goals For Couples.
Below are the 12 important godly relationships you need to have as a godly couple desiring a godly marriage together.
- Put God First.
- Date For Marriage.
- Encourage Each Other In The Lord.
- Pursue Sexual Purity.
- Discuss Your Future Plans.
- Pursue God Together.
- Selflessly Love Each Other.
- Forgive Each Other.
- Desire The Best For Each Other.
- Lay Down Your Lives For Each Other.
- Selflessly Serve Each Other.
- Pray Together.
1. Put God First.
The first Christian relationship goal you need to have as a couple wanting to marry is to put God first in your relationship for it to stand the test of time.
Putting God first in your relationship during courtship is what will help you overcome every relationship challenge you will encounter along the way. It will also set you up for future success.
If you don’t put God first in your relationship, it won’t stand the test of time especially when trials come. You will end up with a lot of heartbreak if God isn’t at the center of your relationship which isn’t God’s will for you.
2. Date For Marriage.
The second relationship goal you need to have as a Christian couple if you are dating is you need to date for marriage and not waste time in situationships.
You must not date like worldly people. Your Christian dating journey must be to get married. Don’t date aimlessly as it will expose you to sexual temptations such as sexual immorality.
If you find yourself dating without any goal of getting married, you need to re-evaluate yourself and your relationship which may just be a time waster and lead you nowhere.
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3. Encourage Each Other In The Lord.
As a godly couple yet to marry, you must also encourage each other in the Lord and help each other grow in the things and knowledge of our Lord Jesus Christ (2 Peter 3:18).
You can do so by sharing Christian books which will draw both of you closer to God and strengthen your faith while you get to know each other during your Christian courtship.
Don’t be like worldly couples who only encourage each other to sin. If you are a Christian couple, your aim must be to bring glory to God even in your relationship as you date, not to make each other fall into sin.
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4. Pursue Sexual Purity.
In a world where promiscuity and sexual immorality have now become commonplace even among Christian couples, be determined to pursue sexual purity and chastity as a couple.
You need to decide as a Christian couple you shouldn’t have physical intimacy or see each other’s nakedness before you are lawfully married in holy matrimony.
1 Corinthians 6:18 tells us to flee sexual immorality. It’s so sad, that many Christian couples are not heeding to this godly advice to remain chaste and pure due to their fleshly desires they can’t control.
Yes, God knows you have sexual feelings as a young Christian woman but you need to be disciplined and not carelessly spread your legs wide open to every Jim and jack out there. The same applies to men to not breed carelessly.
5. Discuss Your Future Plans.
The other Christian relationship goal you need to have as a Christian couple desiring a biblical marriage in the future is to discuss your plans as you date each other.
Discussing your future plans together will help you know and establish what you both want to do with your lives together when you get married in the future.
Doing so will also help you get closer together as you will discover the shared goals you have as a couple as you discuss your plans together such as where you want to live and what you want to accomplish with your lives.
6. Pursue God Together.
Pursuing God together must be your goal as a godly couple if you are in a relationship as that will help you know God’s will and purpose for both of your lives.
Doing so with also help you establish healthy Christian habits of pursuing God together as a married couple in your Christian marriage when you get married in addition to strengthening your faith.
Understand that Christian couples who pursue God together, get closer together and the love and bond they have for each other only gets stronger with time as God is at the center of their relationship.
7. Selflessly Love Each Other.
Loving each other selflessly as Jesus Christ commended in John 13:34 must be one of your top Christian relationship goals as a Christian couple.
Your love for each other must not be based on lust or selfish motives as is the case with worldly relationships where love is only about what one can get from the other rather than giving.
If many couples understand the meaning of selflessly loving one another, all these breakups and divorces we see in society will go down to zero as God’s love never fails nor seeks its self-interests.
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8. Forgive Each Other.
Ephesians 4:32 tells us as Christians, we need to forgive each other just as God through Christ’s sake has done. This is especially true if you are in a relationship with two imperfect humans.
You need to understand offenses and misunderstandings even in godly relationships will come as none of us is perfect and without any faults. We all need grace and forgiveness.
It’s why as a couple, you need to forgive each other as it shows you truly love each other. If you don’t forgive your partner for the minor offenses they do to you, it shows you don’t truly love your partner as God expects you to.
Many broken relationships and marriages would be saved if only couples embraced forgiveness. You need to understand having a successful godly marriage is all about learning to forgive each other.
9. Desire The Best For Each Other.
Desiring the best for each other as a couple in a godly relationship must be one of your top godly relationship goals as you date each other.
If you are truly in love with each other, you will desire the best for your partner and see to it their happiness, joy, and well-being are your priority.
It’s so sad many in relationships only seek their selfish interest and if you can’t meet them, they dump you and come up with all sorts of excuses as to why they couldn’t be in a relationship with you.
Moreover, if you are truly a Christian, you can’t afford to have such a selfish mindset as that’s not what true love is all about as 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 reminds us.
10. Lay Down Your Lives For Each Other.
Selflessly laying down your life for your partner must be your goal if you are in a Christian romantic relationship as ultimately that’s what genuine love is all about.
It’s why the Lord Jesus Christ tells us in John 15:13 that there is no greater love than laying down your life for another person which is what He did for us by dying on the cross.
Conversely, if you claim to love your partner, be willing to lay down your life for them and put their needs first even above your own as that’s what God’s love is all about.
11. Selflessly Serve Each Other.
Another Christian relationship goal you must have as a couple wanting to marry each other in the future is to selflessly serve each other without expecting anything in return.
Only if you can do that to your partner can you proudly say you truly love them. If most couples practiced this basic rule, they would have much happier and more fulfilling relationships.
You must understand the moment you choose to say you love your partner, it’s no longer about you but about your partner and their well-being which is shown by how you serve them.
Sadly, many so-called Christian couples aren’t willing to selflessly serve each other without expecting anything in return but that’s not love. Seek to selflessly serve your partner in any way possible if you truly love them.
12. Pray Together.
Last but not least praying together must be one of your top Christian relationship goals as a power couple as prayer will help you get stronger together.
Remember that a praying couple such as husband and wife in marriage stays together despite external circumstances that will make other couples quit on each other.
Praying together as a couple is what will help you have the grace to overcome every challenge and trial that comes your way to test your relationship and future marriage.
If you are truly a couple that prays together, nothing can separate you from each other and most importantly God. You can overcome anything if you pray together.
Develop a habit of praying together during courtship as that will help you build a strong prayer foundation that will greatly help your future Christian marriage but exercise caution.
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Conclusion.
There you go, the 12 Christian relationship goals every Christian couple must have as they prepare for marriage that will help them get closer together.
I hope what you have read above will also help you have relationship goals if you didn’t have any so that you set yourself up for marital success in the future.
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