In this post, you will discover the 11 general vital deal breakers in Christian relationships to not ignore as a Christian if you are dating in a relationship.
The relationship deal breakers you will learn in this article will help you know when the relationship isn’t worth pursuing anymore with a person.
With that aside, let’s discuss the 11 important deal breakers in Christian relationships to not ignore if you don’t want to end up marrying an abuser straight from hell.
11 Godly Relationship Deal Breakers.
Below are the deal breakers in godly relationships that will indicate your relationship isn’t worth pursuing for both of you.
1. Disrespect.
Disrespect is one of the first things that can be a deal breaker in your relationship especially if you value respect in a relationship.
Respect is a very crucial component in every healthy Christian relationship as it shows you love someone if you honor them with your actions and how you speak to them.
You can’t say you love your partner if you disrespect them by how you treat them. If a person is disrespecting you in a relationship despite you giving them many chances to change, then that relationship isn’t worth your time.
Recommended: 10 Crucial Godly Dating Red Flags You Must Not Ignore.
2. Abuse.
Abuse is something you must not tolerate as a Christian from any person if you are in a romantic relationship and dating with the intention of marriage.
You must understand that a person who truly loves you won’t abuse you in any way. True love doesn’t abuse or hurt. Sadly, many single Christians especially women end up being stuck in abusive relationships thinking they can change him.
Understand that only God can change a person’s heart and you can’t change someone who’s unwilling to change. If there is repeated abuse in your relationship, it’s time to end that toxic relationship before things get worse.
3. Incompatible Values.
Having incompatible values on vital life matters like family, finances, faith, or raising children is another common relationship deal breaker that breaks many Christian relationships apart.
You need to understand as Amos 3:2,3 tells us that two people can’t be together unless they both agree. It’s why early on in your relationship as you date, ensure you are on the same page on vital life issues.
Failure to do so will just doom your relationship from the beginning which will just end in a breakup if there is a fatal misalignment of fundamental Christian core values, you stand on as a person.
4. Unresolved Anger Issues.
If you have unresolved anger issues that make it hard for your partner to live in harmony with you, it’s just a matter of time before you go your separate ways.
Never date or marry a person who has unresolved anger issues as you will be signing yourself up for marital misery. Lack of good anger management is one of the main reasons why many have ended up killing their partners or spouses in marriage.
I am sure you don’t want to end up marrying an angry dragon who will threaten to physically harm or unalive you whenever they are angry at you as that’s demonic.
Therefore, if you are currently dating a person who has unresolved anger issues and aren’t willing to do anything about it, break off the relationship with that person as you will be dodging a bullet doing so.
5. Temperament Incompatibility.
Being not compatible in temperament is another deal breaker that breaks many romantic relationships even in Christian circles.
You need to understand that even if you are Christian, you still have different temperaments that affect how you handle things like conflicts, offenses, tolerance to things, and your personality.
This is why being a Christian alone isn’t enough for someone to qualify to be a suitable life partner to marry. Even if you are both believers, you may just not be a good for each other due to temperament issues.
Remember that temperament is the only thing in your relationship or future Christian marriage that will determine how well you will get along with each other or tolerate each other’s flaws with grace.
6. Love Language Incompatibility.
Believe it or not, being with a partner who can’t understand or speak your love language can be another relationship deal breaker that will make it unideal for both of you to be together.
Having a partner who truly understands your love language and how you want to be loved is crucial in every relationship as you will only feel loved by your significant other if the speak your love language.
I can’t imagine marrying a person who can’t speak my love language as we will just be wasting each other’s time. From the onset, be upfront with your partner on how you want to be loved and what love means to you.
Never enter a relationship with a person who can’t speak your love language no matter how perfect that person may be outwardly if you want to feel loved in your future marriage.
7. They Are Still Hung Up On Their Ex.
If your partner is constantly talking about their ex or if they seem to be emotionally unavailable, to you, it’s a sign that they’re not ready for a new relationship.
A person who’s truly committed to you won’t be bothered with their ex as they understand exes are called exes for a reason and belong to the rearview mirror.
As a Christian single entering the Christian dating world, if you discover your partner is hanging around and still obsessed with their ex, just frankly tell them to go back to them if they think they are still in love with their ex.
Don’t waste your time dating or courting someone who’s not into you and has made their intentions clear that they are still madly in love with their ex.
Recommended: 7 Easy Ways To Get Over A Breakup As A Christian Soon.
8. Cheating.
Cheating is something you must not tolerate from your partner in a relationship as a partner who truly loves you will not cheat on you at all or betray your trust like that.
While you may forgive being cheated on by your romantic partner by extending grace and forgiveness to them, if they are unrepentant of their serial cheating, they are not worth your time.
in such situations, it’s better to break off with that person who doesn’t value you at all or respect the relationship. You don’t owe your cheater anything and you must not feel guilty if you break up with them when necessary.
9. Your Partner Wants You To Commit Sexual Sin.
The issue of having sex before marriage is something as a Christian you need to be clear with your partner that you will not see each other’s nakedness before going on the marriage altar.
This is especially true if you are a young single Christian woman as many desperate Christian women sadly are compromising in this area to be chaste and pure by keeping their two legs closed (1 Cor 6:18,19).
If any man is asking you for sex to prove you love them, don’t give in to their sexual advances as a godly man who truly loves you will protect you from sin and won’t want to see your nakedness if you aren’t his wife.
When the man you are dating persists and pressures you to open your legs for him to satisfy his lust, say no, and break off the relationship with such an immoral man as God has a way better man for you who won’t make you sin.
Recommended: 7 Easy Ways To Maintain Sexual Purity While Dating.
10. Irreconcilable Differences.
Having irreconcilable differences as a couple in a Christian relationship on vital matters such as family, finances, children, faith, marital intimacy, etc. can break your relationship irretrievably.
It’s why as a Christian couple early on during dating or courtship, you need to resolve any differences that arise which may make it hard for you to live in harmony when you marry.
If you have differences you can’t simply resolve despite your best efforts, then going thy separate ways is best for both of you. It’s not the end of the world when that happens as a broken courtship is better than a broken marriage.
11. Unrealistic Expectations.
Lastly, unrealistic expectations can break and end your relationship if not tamed and subjected to Christ Jesus as some of the expectations we have as selfish and self-centered at times.
Everyone has expectations for a relationship which isn’t wrong by the way. But if your expectations are unrealistic, you’re setting yourself up for disappointment.
It’s important to communicate your expectations with your partner and to be open to compromise as being in a relationship is all about making the right compromises.
You need to understand that no person will ever be 100% the way you want them to be or meet all your expectations as they aren’t God. That’s why you must tame your expectations and align them with the bible.
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Conclusion.
The above 11 deal breakers in Christian relationships are among many out there that can make a relationship fail or end in a breakup and I hope you learned something new from them.
Knowing your relationship deal breakers early on is what will help you find the right person to marry in this complicated dating jungle of relationships and not end up with a misfit.
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