Wondering about the Christian dating questions to ask before marriage and saying, “I do?” then this post is for you that will help you ask the right dating questions if you are courting.
As a young Christian woman or Christian man looking forward to marriage, there are vital questions you need to ask your partner before taking your relationship to the next step.
By the end of this post, you will be equipped with the 12 vital questions you must ask while godly dating before marriage to help you know if you are on the same page or compatible. Let’s dive in.
12 Vital Godly Dating Questions To Ask.
- Christian Values.
- Stance On Marriage.
- Faith-Based Questions.
- Future Aspirations.
- Future Children.
- Stance On Sexual Purity.
- Family Values.
- Views On Finances.
- Relationship Deal Breakers.
- Conflict-Handling Skills.
- What Love Means To You.
- Premarital Counseling.
1. Christian Values.
One of the first important Christian dating questions you need to ask each other as a Christian couple as you begin your courtship is the Christian values you live by.
This is vital because as a Christian, there certain godly values you need to abide by especially when it comes to marriage and relationships considering how things are in this fallen world we live in.
Ensure the partner you consider marrying in the future as your relationship transitions from dating to serious courtship has the same values as you. Otherwise, your relationship will have problems if your values aren’t aligned.
Check: 7 Vital Benefits That Come With Being In A Godly Relationship.
2. Stance On Marriage.
The second vital Christian dating question you need to ask your potential soon-to-be Christian wife or Christian husband is their stance on marriage especially in these times we live in.
As a Christian couple, there are certain values concerning a Christian marriage you need to live by such as marriage until death do you part and no divorce while married.
For instance, as a godly couple seeking a godly marriage, you need to understand divorce and remarriage while your spouse is still alive is a big no as Jesus Christ tells us in Luke 16:18.
Ensure your partner is on the same page as well on this issue. If not, then it shows your relationship isn’t God’s will for you.
Check: What Did God Truly Say Concerning Divorce And Remarriage.
3. Faith-Based Questions.
Thirdly, while you are courting as a couple in a Christian relationship, you need to ask vital questions concerning your Christian faith just to ensure you are on the same page doctrinally.
Since your faith is such a vital component of your Christian life and even your married life in the future, you need to ask your partner to ensure you share the same faith.
If your faiths are different, you will find it hard to live in harmony especially when you get married and begin to decide which faith should your children be raised in. This is especially true if you are an inter-faith couple.
4. Future Aspirations.
Additionally, another vital question you must ask each other during the early stages of your godly dating journey is the future aspirations you each have for your individual life.
Doing so will help you know if you are a good fit for each other as it doesn’t make sense to be together if your aspirations in life are polar opposites of each other.
Having shared goals and aspirations in life especially as a Christian couple will help you unite in a lot of things which will further help you get closer together as you learn more about each other during courtship.
5. Future Children.
The issue of having children and the number you want to have is another vital question you must not ignore asking your partner in the early stages of your Christian dating journey.
This is especially true if you discover your partner doesn’t share the same views regarding having children or a family.
For instance, you want children and discover your partner doesn’t desire any. That will be a source of constant stress and conflict in your relationship and marriage.
If having children is such a big deal to you, ensure your partner is on the same page. Otherwise, it’s best to go your separate ways if you can’t agree on this delicate matter.
6. Stance On Sexual Purity.
Your stance on sexual purity and abstinence before marriage is another important question you must ask your partner especially if you want to be chaste and avoid defiling yourself with sexual immorality.
As a godly couple, you know very well that sex before marriage is wrong as we are commanded in 1 Corinthians 6:18 to flee sexual immorality which sadly is widespread even among so-called Christian couples.
If your partner doesn’t share the same views on this matter and wants you to commit a sexual sin, you should break up with that person.
Always say no to fornication and God will reward you for your faithfulness with a godly partner who won’t entice you to sin.
Check: 5 Easy Ways You Can Overcome Sexual Sin In Your Singlehood.
7. Family Values.
While you are dating and courting each other as a Christian couple preparing for a Christian marriage, it’s vital to ask each other about family values you want to live by.
Topics such as how children should be raised, parenting, and discipline styles you want to agree on must be expensively discussed while you are in courtship.
Doing so will help understand each other better when it comes to family matters and reduce friction especially when it comes to raising children with family values you both want them raised in.
8. Views On Finances.
Vital financial questions and how you view finances, especially in the context of marriage relationships must be asked and extensively discussed.
You need to understand that finances are one of the main sources of disagreements between couples in marriage.
So, you must be on the same page when it comes to spending and managing finances before thinking of your future marriage together.
If you significantly differ on financial matters, you will find yourselves disagreeing a lot in this area thereby causing a lot of tension in your relationship.
Especially if you don’t agree with the careless spending habits of your partner. Ensure you are on the same page in this area as you look forward to marrying.
9. Relationship Deal Breakers.
If you are currently dating as a Christian couple, you need to also ask each other as to what your individual relationship deal breakers are that will make you opt-out.
Knowing your relationship deal breakers even during dating is vital as it will help you know things you can tolerate and things that are a no-go in your relationship or future marriage.
For instance, you may discover certain things in your partner as you court that you can’t tolerate or live with. If that’s the case, talk about it and how it’s affecting you.
When they refuse to change, you should go your separate ways to avoid future problems in your marriage.
Check: 11 Vital Deal Breakers In Christian Relationships To Not Ignore.
10. Conflict-Handling Skills.
Another vital question you need to ask the person you are dating is how they view conflicts in relationships and their approach to them.
Understand that conflicts are just part of your relationship and will be in your future marriage even as a Christian couple. This is why you need to discuss your conflict-handling skills.
Doing that will help you understand the temperament your partner has which is vital to resolving your future marital conflicts. You don’t want a partner who is verbally abusive when it comes to handling conflicts.
11. What Love Means To You.
As you court and know each other more, the topic of what true love means to you is something that must be discussed early before your relationship gets serious.
I am saying this because it will help you know what your love language is and how you want to be loved by your future significant other in a godly marriage.
We all want to be loved a certain way which is why we all have different love languages as individual humans.
If you don’t ask these vital heart questions concerning love, how will you know if the way the person you are dating is choosing to express their love to you is how you want to be loved?
12. Premarital Counseling.
Last but not least, you need to ask your partner if they believe in premarital counseling as that’s very vital especially if you are close to getting married.
If your partner doesn’t agree on premarital counseling that must be a potential red flag to you as it shows that person is hiding serious issues that need to be resolved before tying the knot.
Premarital counseling is vital for all Christian couples planning to get married as it will expose potential issues that might affect their future marriage if not dealt with early.
It’s why you must not avoid premarital counseling if you are a young couple as there is great wisdom that comes with it.
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Conclusion.
Have the above 12 Christian dating questions to ask before marriage resonated with you? Let me know in the comments below which of them spoke to you the most.
After reading this, I encourage you not to shy away from asking the above questions if you are planning to be in a relationship or are in one already.
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