Today in this post, we shall discuss the 7 perfect examples of God’s agape love in marriage that will remind you what true love and genuinely loving your spouse is all about.
Agape love is what sustains any Christian marriage considering how many marriages are breaking down today due to lack of agape love in these marriages only focusing on Eros love.
Take your time to digest the 7 examples below that’ll signify the presence of agape love in your marriage that will help you love your spouse better
7 Examples Of God’s Agape Love In A Marriage.
Below are the 7 examples of agape love in a Christian marriage that will show you truly love your spouse the way God wants you to.
- Unconditionally Loving Your Spouse.
- Selflessly Serving Each Other.
- Being Selflessly Available For Physical Intimacy.
- Not Keeping Scores.
- Selflessly Forgiving Each Other.
- Showing Unconditional Grace To Each Other.
- Prioritizing Your Spouse’s Wellbeing.
1. Unconditionally Loving Your Spouse.
Being able to unconditionally love your spouse in a Christian marriage without expecting anything in return is the epitome of what true agape love 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 talks about.
When you truly love your husband or wife unconditionally, you won’t love them for what they are to you or what you can obtain from them. Instead, you will selflessly love your spouse without any selfish motives.
So many times, we hear spouses even in Christian marriages say that they can only love their spouse if they do X, Y, and Z. That’s not love, sadly but a transaction. Real love that’s of God is non-transactional.
This is the reason many Christian marriages are breaking down as many have forgotten what true love is all about. Many marriages wouldn’t end in divorce if agape love was present.
You need to understand that a godly marriage isn’t about your happiness but about conforming you to Christ’s image of His selfless love He’s shown to the church. This can only happen if you learn to love your spouse unconditionally.
Check: 13 Christian Marriage Goals All Godly Couples Must Have.
2. Selflessly Serving Each Other.
If agape love is present in your heart, you will selflessly serve your spouse without grumbling or demanding they first do something for you to serve them (1 Cor 13:5).
For example, as a Christian wife, you can selflessly serve your husband in many ways, such as cooking a delicious meal that will make him head over heels for you.
I know this is unpopular, especially in the feministic world we live in where serving your husband in marriage is now viewed as slavery even by many so-called Christian women.
But let me ask you this question dear Christian woman who thinks serving your husband is slavery,” if you can’t selflessly serve your husband in love, who are you going to serve in life truly?”
Conversely, as a Christian husband, you can selflessly serve your wife by doing things that will make your wife feel loved such as helping with chores, and kids at times, etc.
Don’t love or be affectionate to your wife only when you want your sexual needs met in bed as that selfishness and manipulation which sadly, some so-called Christian husbands do which is wrong.
3. Being Selflessly Available For Physical Intimacy.
Being sexually available to your spouse selflessly in a Christian marriage is another example that will clearly show agape love is present in your marriage relationship assuming there isn’t abuse.
Of course, it’s not all the time you will feel like being available for physical intimacy when your spouse truly wants it but you must do it sometimes to show you sacrificially love your spouse.
If your marriage is abusive, please seek professional therapy as what I am saying here might not be ideal in your extreme situation.
However, make an effort to be sexually available to your spouse even when you don’t feel like it at times as that’s what agape love is all about. Sometimes, you need to put the needs of your spouse above your own.
It’s why 1 Corinthians 7:5 in the New Testament encourages Christian spouses not to deprive each other sexually without any genuine reason reminding them that their bodies belong to each other. This is where Eros’s love comes in.
It’s so sad many so-called Christian women and men to some extent now use physical intimacy as a weapon to control the other spouse. It’s why we hear many Christian marriages that are sexually starved.
4. Not Keeping Scores.
Not keeping scores about what your spouse does and does not do is one of the perfect examples of real love that will be present in your marriage if the love of Jesus Christ is the foundation of your union.
For example, you won’t say,” I am doing this and that and therefore you as well need to do this or that for me to continue loving you or I will only give you sex if you do this for me.” That’s not true love (1 Cor 13:5).
It’s so sad many so-called Christian marriages have become like that. It’s not uncommon to hear the wife insisting that her husband meet her selfish needs because he isn’t doing x, y, and z.
This is especially true when it comes to doing chores in the house. Don’t keep scores. Just do them without murmuring and the Lord will richly reward your faithfulness even when your spouse doesn’t appreciate you.
If you say you love your spouse, just love them completely without any whining or throttling your love bandwidth as no one is forcing you to love your spouse.
Why marry and promise love if you think loving your spouse by selflessly serving them is burdensome to you? That’s not fair to yourself and your spouse you vowed to love till the end of days.
5. Selflessly Forgiving Each Other.
Being able to selflessly forgive each other as husband and wife in a Christian marriage as Christ did is another example that will exemplify the presence of God’s love in your marriage.
If you truly love each other as a married couple in holy matrimony, there is no way you will hold grudges against each other or go to bed angry at each other like wounded Buffaloes.
You must understand that all successful Christian marriages are built on true love and forgiveness as no one is perfect. Even as Christian spouses, you will hurt each other at times.
Henceforth, it’s why you need to continuously forgive each other as God has forgiven you if you truly love each other despite the offenses you have done to each other as Ephesians 4:32 commands us to do.
Tragically, many marriages today are drowning in unforgiveness which is why many are breaking down. How can you say you love your spouse if you can’t forgive them for their wrongs? Impossible.
6. Showing Unconditional Grace To Each Other.
For any Christian marriage to last and stand the test of time, it needs lots of grace from both spouses which will be the case in your marriage if Jesus Christ is the center and author of it.
You can’t talk of agape love without grace because, without grace, love is simply a vanity metric worth nothing. Showing grace to your spouse even when they don’t deserve it, goes on to show you understand what true love is.
It’s just a matter of fact that you will both need God’s grace in your marriage which will enable you to tolerate each other’s flaws and imperfections as none of us are angels.
If you are full of grace, you won’t let the petty flaws of your spouse get into your head. Instead, you will love with understanding knowing that you also need grace.
Note that loving and showing grace to your undeserving spouse doesn’t mean being an enabler of your spouse’s unhealthy behaviors such as extreme abuse. In such cases, seek counseling or a temporary separation for reconciliation purposes.
7. Prioritizing Your Spouse’s Wellbeing.
Last but not least, if you truly love your spouse, you will prioritize the needs and well-being of your significant other to see that they are doing well.
If you prioritize the well-being of your spouse, you will ensure their joy, happiness, and well-being are not neglected for the sake of your self-centered happiness. It’s why Philippians 2:3 says we must not think too highly of ourselves.
Rather, we must esteem others better than ourselves and put their needs above our own which is what Jesus Christi did when He died for our sins on the cross.
This is especially relevant in marriage where oftentimes, spouses argue about their needs getting met first for them to love each other. But that’s not Christianity.
As a Christian wife who claims to love her husband, you will put your husband’s needs above your own for the sake of his wellbeing. Likewise, a Christian husband will die to himself to put his wife’s needs above his own.
Remember, marriage is all about dying to yourself and crucifying your natural selfish needs that make you inherently selfish, self-centered, and not want to serve your spouse selflessly.
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Conclusion.
The above 7 examples of God’s agape love in a Christian marriage are among many found in the bible that will characterize a biblical marriage built on God’s love.
I hope and pray that what you’ve read will help you be a better wife or husband who understands what genuinely loving your significant other in marriage is all about.
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