12 (Must-Have) Characteristics Of A Godly Relationship.

Many characteristics characterize a godly relationship or godly marriage and this post will show you 12 major characteristics of a godly relationship that is Christ-centered.

A godly relationship is very different and unique from a worldly ungodly relationship that is not centered on Jesus Christ. So, if you are looking for a godly man or godly woman, you need to pursue a godly relationship.

Without wasting much of your precious time, let’s look at the 12 major characteristics of a godly relationship that will encourage you to pursue godly relationships that will draw you closer to God.

12 Characteristics Of Godly Relationships.

Take your time to read the 12 characteristics of Godly relationships below that will help you easily find a godly man or godly woman to spend the rest of your life with.

  • Christ-Centered.
  • Has Agape Love.
  • Glorifies God.
  • Maintains Chastity.
  • In Line With God’s Will.
  • Has Healthy & Open Communication.
  • Seeks God.
  • Has Respect.
  • Based On Mutual Trust.
  • Draws You Closer To God.
  • Pursues Godliness.
  • Based On Forgiveness.

1. Christ-Centered.

One of the major characteristics of a godly relationship is that it is centered on the Lord Jesus Christ. Implying that all godly relationships all have Christ as the head of that relationship.

Therefore, if you want your relationship or marriage to succeed, let Jesus Christ be the center of your relationship. Only then, will you have a relationship or marriage, that’s filled with godly joy, love, happiness, fulfillment, and contentment.

2. Has Agape Love.

Another characteristic that distinguishes a Christ-based godly relationship is that it’s based on agape love 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 in the new testament talks about that is selfless and seeks to serve rather than being served.

Lack of selfless agape love is common in many worldly relationships nowadays that are not centered on Christ’s love. This explains why there are so many breakups and divorces today as most don’t understand what true love is all about.

However, if you are in a godly relationship, you won’t just think about yourself and what you can get from your partner but what you can give and selflessly serve your partner for their betterment by putting their needs above your own if agape love is reigning in your life.

Related: 5 Signs Of Agape Love In A Relationship (Based On Christ).

3. Glorifies God.

A godly relationship that is centered on Christ-Jesus also seeks to glorify God and not the flesh as it’s the case of all sinful ungodly relationships of this world that aren’t centered on Jesus Christ.

If you are in a godly relationship, you will both seek to glorify God in your relationship by doing things that please God and not sinful things like sexual immorality or fornication that displease God but glorify the flesh.

4. Maintains Chastity.

A godly relationship or marriage is also chaste which implies that it’s not characterized or defiled by sexual immorality, adultery, or fornication but seeks and pursues sexual purity.

Sadly, this is the opposite of many worldly ungodly relationships out there that engage in premarital sex which has now become commonplace even among the so-called daughters of Zion in the church today. What a shame.

You need to remember that God’s word in 1 Corinthians 6:18 tells us that we must flee sexual immorality. So, if you are in a relationship, let that relationship be chaste and free from sexual immorality by avoiding premarital sex at all costs.

Related: How To Overcome Sexual Immorality (In 5 Easy Steps Today).

5. In Line With God’s Will.

A godly relationship or godly marriage centered on Jesus Christ will always be in line with God’s will and purpose for your life. Implying that you won’t be with a person who is not God’s will for you.

Therefore, if you are a person seeking a godly marriage that will be filled with joy, you need to ensure that the person you are getting into a relationship with is a godly man or a godly woman.

You also need to ensure that the person you want to spend the rest of your life with is God’s will for you and the only way you can know about that is by praying about it. Sadly, most don’t do explaining why they end up being with the wrong person not meant for them.

6. Has Heathy & Open Communication.

A godly relationship is characterized by an open and healthy communication style between both partners wherein each partner freely shares their thoughts and feelings with the other so that the other person can respond accordingly.

This includes not just verbal communication but also non-verbal communication such as body language, which allows both partners to hear what each other, has to say about an issue without feeling judged or misunderstood which can cause hurt feelings.

It’s a well-known fact that healthy communication is critical to the success of any relationship or marriage and if your relationship or marriage is godly, it will be characterized by healthy communication without any yelling at each other.

7. Seeks God.

A godly relationship is also characterized by having a mutual commitment to seek God for guidance in all matters of faith and life issues that come up during your time together as a couple, especially during courtship.

This implies that you will always desire to seek God as a couple so that you can understand the will and purpose He has for you as a couple and what He wants you to accomplish together as husband and wife.

Related: 54 Godly Relationship Quotes For Purity [+ Sermon].

8. Has Respect.

Mutual respect will be another characteristic that will characterize a godly relationship. Implying that you will honor and respect your significant other or spouse as you know they are made in God’s image (Genesis 1:27).

However, if you are not in a godly relationship that is based on God’s love and respect, you will be disrespected in that relationship which seems to be a common theme in many relationships today that are toxic and abusive.

The reason why many are in abusive relationships is that they have chosen to be with an ungodly partner that doesn’t value or respect them. If you value your partner, you will treat them with respect and you will not be emotionally, physically, or verbally abusive to them.

9. Based On Mutual Trust.

The other thing that differentiates a Christian marriage or relationship is that it’s based on mutual trust towards each other and games of deceit and lies won’t have a place there.

Implying that if you are a Christian couple desiring a successful marriage, you must trust each other completely and not have secrets that could hurt the other person’s feelings or cause damage to the relationship.

For any marriage relationship to be strong, there needs to be openness between two people who can be honest with each other about their thoughts, feelings, and opinions without fear of being judged or ridiculed by the other person (1 Corinthians 13:4-7).

10. Draws You Closer To God.

A godly romantic relationship that is Christ-based will also draw you closer to God and not away from Him, which is why as a single Christian man or woman, you need to marry a person who shares your Christian faith.

If you choose to be in a relationship with someone who doesn’t share your Christian faith, there is a likelihood that person might make you backslide. A godly relationship will never make you abandon your Christian faith but will strengthen it instead.

The Bible tells us in 2 Corinthians 6:14 that you must not unequally yoke yourself with an unbeliever. So, if a relationship you are in is drawing you away from our Lord Jesus Christ, you need to let go of that relationship before it ruins your faith.

11. Pursues Godliness.

Another thing that differentiates a godly relationship from one that isn’t godly is that the former will pursue godliness, righteousness, and holiness while the latter does the opposite but promotes sin and immorality.

As a person who desires a godly wife or godly husband after your courtship period, you need to ensure that the person you choose to be in a relationship with shares the same godly values with you that will make it easy for both of you to pursue godliness.

By so doing, it will be easy for both of you to avoid sexual sin and maintain your chastity or sexual purity that most aren’t doing today due to the ungodly partners they have chosen to be with.

Related: How To Live A Godly Life As A Youth And Maintain Your Chastity.

12. Based On Forgiveness.

Last but not least, a godly marriage or relationship founded on God’s love will also be based on forgiveness as none is perfect and we will at times do things that hurt each other as we are imperfect humans, not angels.

You need to understand that a happy godly marriage consists of two imperfect people who have learned to forgive each other of their offenses.

Ephesians 4:32 tells us that we must forgive each other as God through Christ’s sake has forgiven us. If you truly love your partner, you will easily forgive them of their offenses done against you as you know none is perfect and you as well need forgiveness, too.

Related: Why Is Forgiveness Important In Christianity? [+ Sermon].


The above 12 characteristics of a godly relationship are one of many out there in the bible that characterizes all godly relationships founded on Christ Jesus.

My prayer is after reading this; you will desire to pursue a godly relationship that draws you closer to God and not away from Him into sin or sexual immorality.

In closing, if this post has edified you to pursue godly relationships, drop a comment below, and don’t forget to share before you leave, and may the Lord bless you with a godly partner.

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