In this post, you will find out the foundation of a godly relationship and the 7 main pillars of a godly relationship or godly marriage is founded.
To have a successful godly relationship or godly marriage, it needs to have the right foundation from the start. Without that, your relationship or marriage is doomed to fail from the start.
With so many worldly pieces of advice on how to have a successful relationship or marriage, it can be very confusing to know which advice to follow.
However, as a Christian woman or Christian man pursuing a godly relationship that will later lead to a godly marriage, you need to have Jesus Christ as the center of your relationship or marriage if you are to succeed.
With the right foundation, divorce will not be an option because if your relationship is founded upon Christ Jesus, it will stand the test of time.
One of the major reasons why many relationships or marriages are breaking up or ending in divorce today is because of the wrong foundation many have built their romantic relationship or marriage on.
With that said, let’s look at the foundation of a godly relationship filled with God’s Holy Spirit that all godly relationships and marriages need to be built upon if they are to stand the test of time.
7 Key Foundations Of A Godly Relationship.
Below are the 7 must-have foundations of a godly relationship which without, your relationship or marriage won’t stand the test of time.
- Jesus Christ.
- Agape Love.
- Honesty & Truth.
- Trust.
- Forgiveness.
- Chastity.
- Built On The Same Faith.
1. Jesus Christ.
The main foundation of every godly relationship is Jesus Christ, which seeks to bring glory to Him. You need to understand that if Jesus Christ isn’t the center of your relationship or Christian marriage, it won’t last.
Having Christ Jesus as the center of your Christian relationship or godly marriage is what will enable you to selflessly love each other sacrificially as commanded in John 13:34 in the new testament.
If Jesus Christ is at the center of your relationship or marriage, selflessly loving each other with selfless Christ-like agape love 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 talks about won’t be hard. You will also find it easy to forgive each other when offenses arise which they will.
However, if Christ isn’t the foundation or center of your relationship, it will be just another breakup or divorce statistic as God’s love, joy, happiness, forgiveness, and contentment will be absent in that relationship or marriage.
2. Agape Love.
True unconditional love that’s from God is another vital foundation of a godly relationship and a strong marriage. There is a difference between loving someone, and loving them sacrificially. The latter involves loving them the way Christ loved us (John 13:34).
When you are in a relationship with someone, whether it’s marriage or friendship, there are things that will come up that will cause you to disagree with each other and put your love to the test.
This can be because of differences in values, personalities, or just plain old differences in opinion. When these disagreements arise, both parties need to remember that the love between you two is what matters most.
If you don’t have true love as the foundation, then all your efforts at trying to make things work will be in vain and no matter what you do, you won’t succeed because there won’t be anything strong enough to hold you together.
Related: 5 Signs Of Agape Love In A Relationship (Based On Christ).
3. Honesty & Truth.
Honesty and truth are other crucial foundations of every Christian marriage or relationship. When we are honest with our spouse and tell them what we are thinking or feeling, they will know how to respond. Honesty is the foundation of all relationships.
If you want to build up your marriage, you need to start with honesty. You can’t expect your spouse to know what you want if you aren’t honest with them.
You need to be truthful to your partner, especially as a married couple. If you have an issue, tell your spouse about it right away, so they can help you resolve it. Communication is key in any relationship and honesty is the foundation of honest communication.
Lies and deceit must not be what defines your relationship, as it won’t last if it’s built on them. Ephesians 4:25 tells us that we need to be truthful to each other which will be the case if our relationship is godly and Christ-centered.
4. Trust.
Trust is another crucial element and pillar of every godly relationship and godly marriage. You can’t have a happy and fulfilling relationship or marriage if you have trust issues with your marriage partner.
Indeed, trust issues in a relationship or marriage can be due to many factors such as betrayal, infidelity, cheating, lies, or deceit. When you are betrayed and lied to by someone you once trusted with all your heart, it’s hard to trust again.
If you don’t trust each other as a Christian couple or husband and wife in a marriage, it will be hard, to be honest, open, and truthful with each other. Where there is genuine trust, openness, honesty, and truthfulness thrive in a relationship.
You also need to trust the Lord in your relationship as Psalms 40:4 tells us as only He will never disappoint us even if our significant other disappoints us. Trusting people will always lead to heartbreaks, as humans aren’t perfect.
Related: 12 Benefits Of Trusting God [To Help You Trust Him More].
5. Forgiveness.
Forgiveness is another important pillar of a godly relationship as it consists of two imperfect people. Due to that, offenses are bound to happen. Without forgiveness, your relationship won’t last.
You need to understand that you didn’t marry an angel and that none is perfect. Due to our different personalities and backgrounds, offenses and misunderstandings are bound to happen even in a godly relationship or marriage.
When this happens, you need to forgive your partner for their offenses without holding grudges as it will show you truly love them and understand what true love is all about knowing that none of us is without flaws.
Ephesians 4:32 tells us that we need to be loving, tenderhearted, and forgiving to each other just as God through Christ’s sake has forgiven us which is especially relevant if you are a married couple.
6. Chastity.
A godly relationship is also built on chastity. Implying that if you are in a Christian relationship, you need to maintain your sexual purity and avoid defiling yourselves with sexual immorality.
You need to abstain from physical intimacy with your partner as a Christian couple dating each other if you are not married. Sex must only be served for your future spouse in marriage.
Sadly, many Christian couples are not doing that explaining why sexual immorality and unwanted pregnancies are now commonplace even in the church today as many sons and daughters of Zion are playing a harlot with their bodies.
This ought not to be so, dear saints in the body of Christ. 1 Corinthians 6:18 admonishes us to flee sexual immorality as it just brings ruin and STDs. Learn to control your sexual urges and don’t act like an animal.
Related: How To Overcome Sexual Immorality & Maintain Your Sexual Purity.
7. Built On The Same Faith.
Last but not least, a godly relationship is also founded on the same Christian faith. It’s vital that the person or would-be future spouse you want to share and spend the rest of your life with shares the same faith with you.
If not, you are going to have serious struggles and disagreements stemming from the different faiths you have especially when you tie the knot and start raising children.
As Amos 3:2 in the old testament tells us, two people cannot walk together unless they agree. So, if there are fundamental disagreements with your faith in your relationship, it can seriously strain your relationship or marriage.
As a person who wants to build a healthy relationship and marriage, you must ensure you are equally yoked in the faith to avoid unnecessary disagreements that come when you have different faiths.
Final Thoughts.
I hope the above post on the foundation of a godly relationship will help you build a godly relationship with the partner you plan to spend the rest of your life with.
As a person looking for a godly marriage, see to it that Jesus Christ is the foundation of your marriage relationship if you want your marriage to last till death do you part.
In closing, if this post has blessed you in one way or the other, drop a comment below, and don’t forget to share before you leave. God bless.
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I can’t begin explaining how grateful I am of God for blessing you to creat this post. To get the true broke down of how a true foundation in God is help me see where I lacked in and strive for a better relationship. Thank you!!!!
Glad you found this post a blessing to you dear sister in Christ and may the Lord bless you with a fulfilling Christ-like godly relationship that will enrich you that you desire. God bless.